By Mary Cope
Life is good, you’re in a new relationship, he’s fun, exciting — the perfect guy. You’re feeling the emotional connection that screams this guy is the guy you want to say those forbidden words to. Those three little words that could have him freaked out and running for the hills. Or, you’ve been in a relationship for so long, you sometimes forget all of the other ways to remind your partner that you love them.
So, what do you do?
Here are five subtle ways to get your point across without actually saying a word.
1. Be thoughtful.
Thoughtfulness is simply showing consideration for someone other than yourself.
Little things matter. Be attentive to your partners’ needs, anticipate them. Nothing says, “love you” more than showing kindness and consideration before it is asked. Predicting the needs of your partner shows them that you care and you matter to me.
2. Be affectionate.
Showing affection can deepen your level of intimacy, create a bond, and reassure your partner you care. Something as simple as running your hand along the length of your partners’ back as you walk by or playful touching them while you are out in public goes a long way. Thoughtful caresses when he is deep in conversation with you or a gentle touch on his thigh while you are having dinner. Physical touch is powerful, when you end your evening together the kiss goodnight is expected but don’t forget the importance of a lengthy hug.
3. Be attentive.
Let your partner know he is a priority, that he is important to you and when he is talking, give him your undivided attention. No checking your cell phone or texting. Don’t scroll through Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Be present, be in the moment, and be focused. Being attentive lets your partner know they are of value to you and important in your life.
4. Do the unexpected.
Cards and written notes are slowly becoming a thing of the past. Take time to jot down a heartfelt sentiment and leave it somewhere for your partner to find. A handwritten note, which simply says, “I’m thinking of you and have a great day,” can go a long way in making that certain someone feel special.
5. Include them in your future.
Let them know your relationship is strong, it has the potential to last and when you speak of the plans in your life, they are a part of them. Get rid of the term, I and begin using us, or we. This gives your significant other the assurance when you look towards the future they are a part of it.
Relationships take time, build and nurture what you have. Establishing trust and commitment will eventually bring those three little words out in the open.
About Mary Cope
Mary Cope is a first time author with Astraea Press. Her book, Beautiful One, is the first in a planned trilogy. She is currently writing the sequel, Beautiful Mess.
Mary enjoys spending time with her family, baking, listening to music and taking long walks with her yellow lab, Maggie.