By Mary Cope
You’ve mourned, moved on and let go of the baggage from your past relationships. You are prepared for love. You are emotionally ready to give and receive love. You want love…
But, are you truly ready?
Relationships take commitment, focus and time but before you think you are ready, ask yourself these three questions.
1. Do you love yourself?
It’s easy to quickly answer, “Yes, I love myself,” but do you? Are you happy in your own skin? Are you content being by yourself or do you constantly need someone to talk to or entertain you?
You are responsible for your own happiness. When you are truly happy with the person you are and love yourself, it is then that you are ready for the possibility of love. You can’t truly love someone until you love yourself first. Opening yourself up to the possibility of a relationship begins when you have the self-confidence of a loving relationship with yourself.
2. Are you looking for someone to complete you?
The three little words Tom Cruise spouted off to Renee Zellweger in the 1996 movie, Jerry Maguire, “You complete me,” may have had worked on the big screen but in the real world looking for someone to complete you is too much pressure for anyone. It is not anyone’s job to complete you or vice versa.
Rather than looking for someone to complete you, you should be looking for someone who adds to your life and in return you add to theirs.
3. Can you settle for imperfection?
In the beginning of a relationship everyone puts their best self forward, they always appear perfect but the reality is, this person, who seems to have no flaws will eventually show their shortcomings. Are you prepared to let go of the myth of perfection? Can you accept this person for who they are?
Our quirks and imperfections make us human, if you can let go of looking for perfection you may then open yourself up to the possibility of a meaningful relationship.
People are drawn to those who are confident and happy within themselves. Be that person and remember being ready for love begins with you.
About Mary Cope
Mary Cope is a first time author with Astraea Press. Her book, Beautiful One, is the first in a planned trilogy. She is currently writing the sequel, Beautiful Mess.
Mary enjoys spending time with her family, baking, listening to music and taking long walks with her yellow lab, Maggie.