It’s Good To Be Picky


Dear Second Acts;

I have an active happy sex and dating life. I’m turning twenty-nine next week. I’m not ready to settle down, so I am content to concentrate on my career and play the field for the next few years. Several men have proposed to me in the past — as recently as this month — but I just don’t think any of them have been Mr. Right. My mother thinks I’m crazy. She goes ballistic every time I turn a guy down. She got married at twenty-two and says I’m too picky . . . that I’ll end up dying alone. What do you think?

– Single in Seattle

Dear Single;

Barring some sort of catastrophic act of God — disease, dismemberment, or, you know, actual, certifiable premature death — anyone who gets proposed to as much as you do will never die alone. You are apparently good at inspiring longing in men. You possess a high level of desirability, which is not likely to go away. The only issue here is whether you eventually want to start a family. You still have plenty of time on that, though, so for now, don’t settle. Tell your mother to mind her own business. If she loves these guys so much, tell her to marry one of them. If she’s still married to your father, tell them all to move to rural Utah.



By Cynthia Amas of Second Acts Dating Service
This “advice” column is the result of art overtaking life. When author Julia Dumont created her leading lady, Cynthia Amas, for her Second Acts novels, she had no idea how domineering her character would become. Cynthia, a man-challenged matchmaker, insisted on writing her own dating advice blog. Julia tried to explain that fictional characters don’t usually write advice blogs for real people, but Cynthia was undaunted. The result is not your average dating blog, but it’s just as funny, irreverent and delightfully crazy as Cynthia.  Should you take her advice? Read on and decide for yourself.

(Cynthia Amas is the heroine of Julia Dumont’s Second Acts series. Cynthia, who was downsized from her Hollywood studio marketing job, has launched her own “second act” with her hi-end and very personalized matchmaking service – the Second Acts Dating Service. Determined to use her uncanny gift of finding true love for others, Cynthia embarks on her journey with a cast of characters that includes her new best friend and dog-groomer to the stars, Lolita, her slightly off-balance mother, a pesky but weirdly charming ex lover, and a world of great new possibilities. The first two books in the series – Sleeping with Dogs and Other Lovers and Starstruck Romance and Other Hollywood Tails – are now on sale at all major online book retailers.)

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