There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Not all of us are ready to find love, to settle down, or even to meet for coffee unless itâ€™s going to advance our careers. Sure, deep down weâ€™re all dreaming about the day we bring home â€śthe one.â€ť
But right now?Â Right we want to create a home of our ownÂ on our own. Or we want to jump from home to home because weâ€™re not tied down, and we like it that way for now.
Society can make it seem like being single at a certain age means youâ€™re falling behind. As a fellow single woman, I vehemently disagree. Take yourself, for instance.Â Chances are, youâ€™re a highly motivated, ridiculously passionate, and a bright-eyed young woman with all the potential in the world to change it.Â Am I right?
Our digital culture can make it a little discouraging to be single when everyone else is getting married and having babies. Yet our culture is also seeing a change â€“ one that supports women going after their dreams and not afterÂ diamond rings. Weâ€™re seeing our world evolve this way and itâ€™s up to us to grow with it and to make the new â€śnormal.â€ť
Because youâ€™re not falling behindâ€¦ youâ€™re just falling for the wrong guy.
Itâ€™s time to forget societal expectations. Itâ€™s time to change the way fairy tales are written â€“ itâ€™s not a matter of erasing the happy ending but changing the way we get to one.Â For now, focus on being a badass single woman whoâ€™s chasing her dreams. Go chase headlines and go change lives. You donâ€™t need a man to do any of it. But what you do need are these 9 tips to help you get there:
1. Travel the world.Â Travel opens up your eyes and your heart. If anything is going to empower you, itâ€™ll be watching the sun rise in another part of the world. Go with friends or travel solo, either way thereâ€™s an entire world waiting for you to discover it, to haveÂ an adventure, and to explore.
2. Read about other successful women.Â Get inspired byÂ badass womenÂ that are making a real difference in this world that has nothing to do with who theyâ€™re married to â€“ or if they even are. Remember, you can be one of them.
3. Pamper yourself and glam it up.Â Forget that it sounds silly because thereâ€™s no woman out there that doesnâ€™t feel better after going to the salon or getting dolled up. So give in and splurge on the spa (Gilt CityÂ always has some great offers) or haveÂ GlamSquadÂ arrive before a night out with the girls.
4. Surround yourself with great women.Â Being around people who make you laugh, support your dreams, and make you want to be a better person is the key to a happy heart.
5. Subscribe to a subscription service.Â Each month youâ€™ll receive fun surprises that will serve as a reminder to treat yourself and hopefullt be useful in your every-day life. You can try everything from Birchbox toÂ RocksboxÂ to FabFitFun to SinglesSwag â€“ the options are endless!
6. Spread a message of love.Â Instead of spreading your lack of a dating life, spread the love. Spread your love of self, of the world, of your family, of your pet, or, hell, even your brand of wine. You never know what itâ€™ll attract from it.
7. Focus on your career.Â Put absolutely everything youâ€™ve got into following your passions, climbing your ladder of choice, taking risks for a bigger reward, and doing it all without depending on a man. Maybe readingÂ a bookÂ would help.
8. Go to networking events.Â I recently went to a life-changingÂ Creative MorningsÂ talk so I can attest that sometimes external inspiration can be very powerful. Sometimes you need a peripheral push, and there are plenty of other groups too, likeÂ SheSaysÂ orÂ IVYÂ â€“ all of which I suggest trying out.
9. Give yourself a break occasionally.Â Enjoy that glass of wine (maybe try aÂ wine of the month club), have a relaxing night in, eat the whole tub of ice cream (especially if itâ€™sÂ Halo Top), and donâ€™t scold yourself for any of it. Indulge because you deserve it.
While some of these may seem a little clichĂ©, when is the last time you actually chose to practice any of them? Instead of jeering at the commonality, try to simply embrace it. You might surprise yourself, you might love yourself a little more, and you might find yourself more empowered to go change your world.
â€śI am a lover without a lover. I am lovely and lonely and I belong deeply to myself.â€ť â€“Warsan Shire
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