Secret Santa Surprise

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The sound of “Jingle Bells” playing on the mall’s loud speakers followed me as I fought my way through the hoards of shoppers. The music put me in the Christmas spirit and I started humming along as I walked.

This was my first visit since the new mall had opened and foolish me, I’d hoped to avoid the crowds. But there’s simply no avoiding the crowds when it comes to Christmas shopping–unless you start in July. Too many people in one place made me nervous and it took courage for me to shop knowing I’d have to brave them alone.

It was lonely this year without Jake by my side. He was always laughing, joking and holding me close. Where was he? I wondered.

Maybe he had some new woman in his life, and if so, would he be faithful to her? In the spirit of the season, I tried hard to wish him well but soon gave up. He’d hurt me too much to earn my forgiveness.

I stopped in front of a store window, staring at the display of bright lights and Christmas cheer. The place appealed to me and I decided to begin my shopping inside. I strolled in the door at a leisurely pace, deciding to take my time and not feel rushed.

My family had insisted on drawing names that year and I knew I could only expect one gift, but that didn’t stop my generous heart from wanting to buy something for everyone. I might be on a budget but I had a talent for rooting out bargains, and with the economy still in the dumpster, there were bargains galore this season. I felt sure I could find something for everyone on my list and not bankrupt myself in doing so.

I spied a tie on sale that I knew Dad would like and headed toward it.

“Hello, pretty lady. Would you like to tell Santa what you’d like for Christmas?”

Startled, I dropped my list and bent down to recover it. A hand attached to a bright red sleeve beat me to it.

“Here you go. I’m sorry I startled you,” Santa’s eyes twinkled with mischief as he handed me my list.

“Thanks.”

I tried to walk away, but Santa’s arresting gray eyes and handsome face held me in place as though he’d stapled me to the floor. I could feel my face becoming hot and knew I was blushing. Santa’s smile grew broader.

“If you tell me your name,” he coaxed, “I can check to see if the elves got your letter. You did write one telling me what you’d like for Christmas didn’t you?”

“Nice try,” I chuckled, “but my mommy always told me not to talk to strangers.”

“But how can Santa Claus be a stranger?” he laughed.

“I think you know the answer to that.”

“You shouldn’t talk that way to Santa,” a small voice interjected.

“Everybody knows about Santa. Tell him your name or your stocking might be empty on Christmas morning.  You might even find some oil in it for being naughty.”

The small crowd that had gathered around us laughed. Where did they come from?

“Bobby, Santa doesn’t put oil in stockings,” remarked the woman holding the boy’s hand. “He puts coal in stockings, not oil.”

“But Mom, I thought he might have upgraded to oil.”

The crowd laughed again and little Bobby turned bright red.

I smiled. “It’s okay, Bobby. I’m not being mean to Santa. I’m sure we’ll work something out.”

I turned back to Santa and saw victory gleaming in his eyes, but I wasn’t so easily defeated. “I’ll send you a letter, Santa.” I said sweetly. “And tell you what I want. I’m leaving now to buy stationery and a stamp.” And it’ll be a warm day at the North Pole when you get it.

Santa frowned. “Why not tell me your name, so I’ll recognize it when your letter comes?”

I sighed. “My name’s Tess. This has been fun, but I have to leave. Bye, Santa.”

I heard Santa tell Bobby, “Don’t worry. I promise I’ll find her. She won’t be without a gift under the tree.”

Bobby and the crowd cheered as I walked away shaking my head. Don’t make promises you can’t keep,Santa.

I stopped to look at the tie and picked out one in a color I knew Dad would like. As I stood in line at the cash register, Santa and the gang trooped on by headed for a display with a sign saying “North Pole” over it. Clearly he’d been on a break while talking to me and it had cost him his free time. “Serves you right, you big flirt,” I whispered.

After paying for the tie, I scurried out of the store before Santa decided to come looking for me. I’d seen another store I wanted to check out, but made sure no handsome Santas were in sight.

Nothing in the store caught my eye. I checked my watch and decided to leave. I could finish shopping online. It would be easier.

Keeping my eye out for the handsome Santa, I managed to get out of the mall and to my car without running into him again. I chuckled at the thought of seeing him under a stack of kids reciting what they wanted for Christmas.

It might be lonely without Jake, but that didn’t mean I felt ready for another man in my life—even if he was Santa Claus. When I was ready to love again, I wanted a man who was honest and faithful. The flirtatious Santa, tempting as the scoundrel was, didn’t fit that description. The guy probably flirted that way with all the women he saw. His job provided him with a great way to pick up women. Of course most of the women he’d see would have kids and husbands.

I wouldn’t let myself believe the guy in the Santa suit had singled me out. I’d thought Jake was that way, too, but he just loved women and attracted them in droves.

The phone rang as I walked in the door of my apartment. It was my best friend, Nora, who’d probably called my cell phone, too, but I always kept it off when I was driving.

“I’m calling to remind you about the Christmas party.”

“How could I forget? You have it every year.”

“Are you saying you don’t want to come?”

“It’s not that I don’t want to come exactly, it’s just that I don’t have a date.”

“No big deal. I can fix you up with someone. In fact, I know just the guy. You two would be perfect for each other.”

“No thanks. I don’t do blind dates.”

“You’re coming to the party, Tess.”

“You win,” I sighed. “But I’ve got to go,” I lied. “Someone’s at the door.” I hung up before she could say another word. It was no use arguing with her. Unless I wound up with a broken leg or something, I’d have to go.

The afternoon of the party I show­ered and dressed early, all the while trying to think of a way to get out of going. I finally decided to go to the party and sneak out early. Once the party got going, I knew Nora would be too busy to keep an eye on me.

She greeted me at the door with a glass of champagne in her hand. “You’re early. Come in, Tess. There’s someone I’d like you to meet.”

“I told you not to fix me up with  anyone,” I whispered.

“Oh, he’s not just anyone,” she laughed. “But first let me get you something to drink.”

I felt tempted to bolt for the door, but figured Nora would tackle me and bring me back. I gritted my teeth and tried to smile.

Nora returned with my drink. A tall stranger wearing sunglasses accom­panied her.

“Tess, I’d like you to meet Cole.” Cole and I shook hands.

“Nice to meet you, Tess. I hope you don’t mind the shades, I’ve had a headache all day and bright lights only make it worse.”

Something about his voice seemed familiar, but I didn’t know why.

“Cole! There you are. I’ve been looking all over for you.”

Nora scowled. “I don’t remember inviting her. Stay put, Cole. I’ll take care of this.”

My best friend shot across the room with a smile pasted on her face. I almost felt sorry for the blonde that Nora was about to evict her from the party. Nora had a thing for party crashers and wasn’t shy about confronting them.

“I don’t know who that woman is.” “She thinks she knows you,” I com­mented skeptically.

“Many people think they know me,” he said cryptically. “Would you like to join me? I’ve found a potted palm to hide under.”

I laughed at that. “Are you one of Nora’s projects, too?”

“Projects? Oh, you mean is she trying to fix me up with someone? Not yet,” he grinned, “but I’m sure I’m on her list. Looks like she’s headed back this way. Come on, let’s make our escape.”

Cole grabbed my hand and led me to a far corner of the room. We watched in relief as Nora gave up her search and started talking to some other people.

“I think we’re safe for a while. So how do you know Nora?” I asked. “I’m her new boss.”

“She must have forgotten to tell me she had a new boss. She loves her job.”

“She’s a good secretary. I hope she’ll stay a while.”

I was nursing my second drink when I noticed Nora on the prowl again. Cole set his drink down and looked at me. “What do you say we get out of here and go get a cup of coffee? I think I’ve had enough alcohol for one night.”

“Sounds good. I’m not much of a drinker either.”

Nora caught my eye as Cole and I were leaving. I waved and mouthed a thank you. Nora frowned and a deter­mined look came over her face as she marched towards us. Cole grabbed my hand. “Let’s run for it. For all we know she’ll come sprinting out here after us.”

“You’re her boss, can’t you do something?”

“I thought you knew Nora.”

“Point taken,” I giggled. “Come on, I’ll race you.”

Cole followed me and pointed to a sports car parked nearby. “My car’s over there,” he said. “I’ll meet you at the coffee shop down the street. See you there.”

I caught my breath in the car and wondered what I was doing running off with Nora’s boss. I knew I’d hear about it the next day.

Cole and I talked and laughed at the restaurant. He was a funny guy and kept making jokes about what Nora was going to do to us when she caught us. I couldn’t resist his humor. I’d been far too glum lately because of Jake and laughter was what I needed to get out of my funk.

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“Stop it,” I pleaded. “My ribs are getting sore from laughing.”

Cole smiled. “I’ll try to show some mercy, but you have to listen to one more joke.”

I wanted to see what Cole’s eyes looked like without the sunglasses, but didn’t think asking him to take them off would be a good idea. I’d known light sensitive people before and felt sorry for him.

“Is your headache better?”

“Much, but I’ll keep the sunglasses on just in case.”

“I’ve enjoyed this, Cole, but it’s getting late and I should be leaving.”

“I’ll walk you to your car.”

“Thanks for the apple pie and coffee. I enjoyed myself.”

“And thank you for being my partner in crime. I’m not a party person, but your friend insisted I come.”

“Nora can be persuasive,” I commented.

He honked once as he drove away. I liked Cole and hoped I’d see him again, but maybe I was deluding myself. He’d had plenty of time to ask for my phone number and hadn’t.

The next morning was Saturday. I decided to sleep in, but the phone rang at eight o’clock in the morning. I groaned when I saw who was calling.

“Aren’t you the cunning one, stealing my boss away like that? You disappeared before I could introduce you to the guy I told you about,”

“But I thought it was Cole you were talking about.”

“Cole’s my boss. I have to tread lightly there. So did you two have a good time? Has he asked you out?”

“We had a good time, but he didn’t mention seeing me again.”

“I’ve got to be going. Next time stick around. You would have liked the guy I had lined up for you. I can set it up another time.. .”

“Sorry. I’m not interested. There’s a call coming in on another line, I’d better go. See you.”

I didn’t want to be rude, but Nora’s meddling was tiresome. She meant well, but sometimes I let her bully me around too much.

The doorbell rang a few minutes later. I hurried to answer it thinking it was Nora. Didn’t the woman ever give up?

I threw open the door.

“Cole! What are you doing here?”

“I came to see you. I tried to call earlier, but your line was busy.”

“I was talking to Nora. Would you like to come in?” I glanced down at my bare feet and tattered robe. “Have a seat while I go change into something decent. There’s coffee in the kitchen if you don’t mind making it.”

When I returned, Cole was sipping a cup of coffee. He looked up at me and smiled.

“This is great coffee! There’s plenty left for you.”

“Thanks. Do you still have a headache this morning? There’s some aspirin in the cupboard.”

“I hope you don’t mind the shades.” “No. Of course not.”

I found a can of refrigerated cinnamon rolls and popped them in the oven. By the time I pulled them out, we’d started on a fresh pot of coffee.

“Those sure smell good,” Cole commented.

“Homemade would be better, but this is the best I could do on such short notice.”

After breakfast, Cole helped me clean up.

“Why did you come over this morning? I never did ask you.”

Cole blushed. “I. . .er. . .I just wanted to see you. I had such a good time last night that I thought we could figure out something to do today if you’re not busy. Are you?”

“No. I don’t have any plans.”

“Great! Would you like to go for a drive? I’ll even spring for lunch.”

“Just a minute. . .”

I turned on the dishwasher and lis­tened to the machine start to hum. “I’m ready. Let’s go.”

I grabbed my purse and followed Cole out the door, but gasped in sur­prise when I saw his car.

“I didn’t realize you had a Jag. I’ve always wanted one.”

“Me too,” he laughed. “I kind of collect sports cars.”

“How many do you have?”

“Two.”

Cole was a great conversationalist and he kept me laughing as we drove through the quiet countryside. We stopped at a small deli on the way back to town. After lunch, he drove me home.

“I’ve had a great time today, Cole. Thanks!”

“Thank you for coming.” He paused a moment. “I plan to drive around and see the Christmas lights tonight. I hear there are some mind-blowing displays this year. Would you like to come?”

I didn’t want to sound too eager. “Sure, why not? I love Christmas lights.”

“Great! I’ll pick you up at six and we can have dinner first.”

After Cole dropped me off, I stood in the window watching him drive away. I knew I liked him, but what would Nora say when she found out? I pushed the thought of Nora away and went to take a shower. I knew I’d figure out a way to deal with her.

Cole and I started going out and I wondered if I should buy him some­thing for Christmas. The holiday was only a week away. I decided to go with my gut and get the guy something. It couldn’t be too personal. I didn’t want to scare him away.

Meanwhile, Nora wasn’t speaking to me. Someone told her about Cole and me, and she threw a fit. “Don’t you know you could put my job at risk, Tess? What if you dump him and he takes it out on me?”

“I thought you wanted me to have a man in my life!”

“I do, but I don’t want it to be my boss. So stop seeing him!”

“Sorry. No can do. I like Cole—a lot. And I’m not going to run him off because you tell me to. You don’t run my life, Nora.”

“I think you should find a new best friend.”

“Sounds good to me,” I said and hung up the phone. There was no use trying to persuade Nora that dating Cole wouldn’t affect her. It was futile to try.

Cole looked good in red, so I hunted through the stores until I found him a bright red sweater. It was a gift that wouldn’t scare him off. I didn’t think he’d be easy to scare off, but I didn’t want to chance it. Better to get him a safe gift like the sweater.

We were getting closer every day and I wondered when Cole would try to make love to me. So far he hadn’t even tried once. I knew he respected me, but did he want me? The memories of my time with Jake still haunted me. He’d pretended to be a gentleman, too, and he’d conned me good. I didn’t feel Cole would do it, but sometimes I was a poor judge of character.

Christmas Eve found me preparing dinner for Cole. It would be just the two of us. His present sat under the tree—a bright green package with a large red bow on it. I was chopping carrots when the doorbell rang.

“Coming!” I called.

I opened the door and gasped. “What are you doing here?”

“Ho, ho, ho. Merry Christmas, Tess. Don’t you recognize me?”

The department store Santa stood on my doorstep with a gift and a bottle of wine in his hands.

“Cole? Is that you?”

“What you don’t recognize me? Oh. . . I forgot. This is the first time you’ve seen me without my shades. Or at least the first time you’ve seen Cole without his.”

I frowned, uncertain whether to laugh or cry.

“Please don’t be angry. I know I should have told you that I fill in for Santa at the department store sometimes, but I wanted to surprise you. Please don’t be mad at me.”

“Is that why you’ve been wearing the sunglasses?”

“Yes. But I really do have issues with light sensitivity.”

“Yeah. Right,” I said as I started to close the door.

“Wait!” he said, as he pushed against it. “Please give me another chance, Tess. I promise I’ll be honest with you.”

“Oh, all right. Come in, but don’t think I’ve let you off the hook for this.”

“You won’t be sorry,” he said. “Something smells good, what are you cooking?”

“Something light. We’re invited over to my parent’s house tomorrow for a feast.”

Santa—I mean, Cole—followed me into the kitchen. I turned around to get something and bumped right into him. That’s when he kissed me.

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“I brought mistletoe,” he whispered in a husky voice. I looked up and saw the sprig he’d been holding over our heads.

I laughed. “You think of everything, don’t you?”

“I do my best.”

Before I could say another word, Cole scooped me up and carried me out of the kitchen.

“Put me down!”

“No.”

“Well at least tell me where you’re taking me.”

Cole didn’t say anything until we entered my bedroom and he laid me on my bed. He lay next to me and began kissing me all over. An hour later, I felt at peace wrapped in his arms. I’d never felt that way before, not even with Jake.

“I’ll be right back,” Cole said as he gently pushed me back on my pillow. He returned a moment later with a small package in his hand.

“This is for you, from Santa.”

My heart thundered in my chest as I tore the wrapping from the gift.

“Oh, Cole, it’s beautiful! Thank you.”

He helped me put the heart shaped necklace around my neck, and kissed me afterwards.

“This is going to be a great Christmas,” I whispered.

Then I remembered something. “I heard you promise that little boy that you’d find me and give me a gift.”

“I did. Just remember, Santa always keeps his promise.”

I smiled and kissed him back. “He’d better.”

“Merry Christmas, Tess.”

Two years have passed since Cole and I got married. Everyone likes to joke and call me Mrs. Claus, but I don’t mind.

 

 

 

Telenova Gets 2-Episode Preview!

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Based on an idea by Eva LongoriaTelenovela is, a sometimes very funny and stylized single camera half-hour comedy that is about a lot more than it lets on – which is pretty good for Big 4 TV in a season that has seen very little of such smart laughs.

With a 2-episode preview on December 7 right after The Voice before moving to its regular Monday 8:30 PM spot after fellow newbie Superstore on January 4,Telenovela is a welcome reflection of America 2015 as well as an on-the-money satire and love letter to a beloved TV genre watched by millions daily.

The gist of this Telenovela is a backstage look at a long-running VivaVision soap show lead by star Ana Maria (Longoria), who badly tries to hide the fact that she can’t actually speak Spanish. Perhaps in lesser hands, it would all become a tired 1-liner very quickly but with an infectious buoyancy from Longoria’s great comic timing,Telenovela has a lot of bounce – and a great wind machine. Also, the Chrissy Pietrosh and Jessica Goldstein-written and EP’d show from Longoria’s UnbeliEVAble Productions, Universal TV and Tall and Short Productions has a strong supporting cast that includes Diana Maria Riva as the show’s wardrobe boss and Ana Sofia’s official best friend.

So, check out the trailer below and watch the preview tonight!

The Best of My Three Lovers

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I listened to the howling wind and watched the snow fall around me and waited for death. I had neither the strength nor the will to go on. I had no reason to live. I had destroyed my life years ago when I married Lawrence Williams. Now, I had come to this wilderness searching for the one man who held my heart in his hands. Well, I had found him.

“Oh, Tim!” I sobbed to the wailing wind. “Why didn’t I realize years ago that I loved you?”

It was too late for regrets. My baby was dead. My other son was with Lawrence, and I would never see him again. I could never go back and change my life. I couldn’t live with the pain another moment. I closed my eyes and dreamed of what my life might have been with a man named Tim O’Brien. . . .

I had met him when I was seventeen. I remembered his teasing grin, and those piercing eyes that were so full of life, looking at me from the kitchen of the little café where we both worked. He cooked and I waited tables all night on weekends. He had dropped out of school and was living with his sister. I was still in high school, saving every dime for college. I had big dreams. I wanted to be a writer or an artist . . . whatever would bring me success and a ticket out of the poverty I’d been born into.

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The Danish Girl: Portrait of a Lady

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A year after Eddie Redmayne proved his incredible capacity for reinvention in The Theory of Everything, the freckle-faced Brit pulls off the ultimate identity overhaul as The Danish Girl, portraying gender-reassignment trailblazer Lili Elbe, nee Einar Wegener, who was one of the first to make a “sex change” via surgery.

Based on David Ebershoff’s bestselling novel, The Danish Girl, directed by Tom Hooper, is the true story of one of the first people to undergo sex re-assignment surgery. It’s also a portrait of a marriage and an artistic partnership. “Lili” begins when Gerda asked Einar to sit in for her portrait of a ballerina. A long-repressed impluse awakens in Einar. Tracing the silk lining of the dress, he nearly trembles with excitement and trepidation. The pull of Lili on his psyche is magnetic. As Einar continues to cross-dress, there is the distinct sense—captured brilliantly by Mr Redmayne’s performance—that each step in heels, each feminine twist of the neck, is taking him further down a path from which it will become increasingly difficult to return.

The Danish Girl is telling an important story, but it does so by following the blueprint of a thousand biopics that have come before. Nonetheless, The Danish Girl is destined to be the year’s most talked-about arthouse phenomenon.

Carol Wins Big at the New York Film Critics Circle Awards

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The New York Film Critics Circle has named Carol as its best picture of 2015. The Todd Haynes-directed film — which stars Cate Blanchett as a housewife who meets and begins an affair with a shop clerk and aspiring photographer (Rooney Mara) in 1950s New York — won four awards from the critics organization.

The NYFCC consists of 30 film critics for New York-based publications, and has met every December since the 1930s to vote on the year’s top films, actors, directors, cinematographers and screenplays. Leading the pack this year was Carol, which won not only Best Picture but Best Director for Haynes, Best Cinematographer for Edward Lachman and Best Screenplay for Phyllis Nagy, who adapted the script from Patricia Highsmith’s 1952 novel The Price of Salt.

Raise Your Glass to Fiction’s Worst Sex Scenes

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By Katherine Sharma

One of my favorite “literary” awards, the annual Bad Sex in Fiction Award, has announced this year’s winner! The award was established back in 1998 by the British Literary Review’s then-editor Auberon Waugh, with the hope of discouraging authors from penning laughably bad fictional sex scenes. It just underscores the challenge of writing erotic and emotionally resonant sexual descriptions that the award hasn’t run short of nominees, and that nominees often include otherwise acclaimed writers.

Despite shaming examples of failed eroticism with a booby prize, authors still stumble into porno slang, off-putting anatomical terms, or strained metaphors of a natural (otters and butterflies), mechanical (plows and pistons), or cosmic (supernovae and black holes) kind. The unintended reader response to poorly written descriptions of sexual intimacy is wincing, gagging or giggling–and sometimes all three. TS-471009230 (1) Bad Sex Scenes 1

A case in point is the 2015 winner, the debut novel List of the Lost by former Smiths vocalist Morrissey, which includes this awful sex romp: “At this, Eliza and Ezra rolled together into one giggling snowball of full-figured copulation, screaming and shouting as they playfully bit and pulled at each other in a dangerous and clamorous rollercoaster coil of sexually violent rotation with Eliza’s breasts barrel-rolled across Ezra’s howling mouth and the pained frenzy of his bulbous salutation extenuating his excitement as it whacked and smacked its way into every muscle of Eliza’s body except for the otherwise central zone.”

Nominees for 2015 include The Martini Shot by the celebrated screenwriter of TV’s “The Wire,” George Pelecanos (“I rubbed myself against her until she was wet as a waterslide”); Joshua Cohen’s Book of Numbers (“her breasts were like young fawns, sheep frolicking in hyssop”); and Before, During, After by Richard Bausch (“When she took him, still a little flaccid, into her mouth, he moaned, ‘Oh, lover.'”). For a sampling of fiction’s worst sex scenes by previous winners

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Katherine Sharma’s family roots are in Louisiana, Oklahoma and Texas. But after her early childhood in Texas, she has moved around the country and lived in seven other states, from Virginia to Hawaii. She currently resides in California with her husband and three children. She has also traveled extensively in Europe, Africa and Asia, and makes regular visits to family in India. After receiving her bachelor’s degree. in economics and her master’s degree in journalism from the University of Michigan, Katherine worked as a newspaper and magazine writer and editor for more than 15 years. She then shifted into management and marketing roles for firms in industries ranging from outdoor recreation to insurance to direct marketing. Although Katherine still works as a marketing consultant, she is now focused on creative writing.

A Moveable Feast Resonates With Humanity

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In the days since the terrorist attacks in Paris, something unexpected has happened. A half-century old book by an American writer has gone to the top of the bestseller list in France.

A Moveable Feast by Ernest Hemingway has suddenly found a new voice in today’s times.

“Then there was the bad weather. It would come in one day when the fall was over. We would have to shut the windows in the night against the rain and the cold wind would strip the leaves from the trees in the Place Contrescarpe.” – — the opening lines of the American writer’s memoir of life in Paris during the 1920s rings true nearly a century later.

His description of the damp chill in the French capital matched the mood on a freezing, rain-soaked night as Parisians struggled to come to grips with the aftermath of a deadly terror attack.

Hemingway’s love letter to the City of Light has long been required reading for many foreign visitors to Paris. Copies of “A Moveable Feast” stand prominently on display in the venerable English-language bookstore Shakespeare and Company, which Hemingway is said to have frequented in the 1920s.

Shortly after November 13, the French translation of the 51-year-old book leaped to the top of the bestseller list on the French version of online book dealer Amazon and remained there for days.

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Where Did The Passion Go?

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By Mary Cope

When you’re caught up in the throes of a new relationship the passion between the sheets is intoxicating. That primal, barely controllable, impetuous passion sets the pleasure centers of your brain on fire and you think to yourself, this is awesome!

So why, more often than not, does this desire and sexual intensity eventually stop?
Once the relationship is established, is the honeymoon truly over and if so, can we get
those feelings back?

Communication is the key.

When trust and commitment are established in a meaningful relationship discussing sex
should not be an issue. Communicating your desires should be met with a willingness to be heard and an openness to be transparent. Expressing something you are “into” with your partner should never be received with judgement. This person is opening themselves up to you, stating their likes and dislikes, any type of negative reaction could shut your partner down while making them feel self conscious or bad about themselves. When you allow your partner the freedom to express themselves it opens the door to a healthy sexual relationship.

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While some people may find this type of conversation uncomfortable others may find it a
turn on. Whatever the case, discussing sex is necessary. This doesn’t mean you bring up
the subject right before you’re about to have sex, it is better to choose to have this type of
conversation when you’re out of the moment. Although, being verbal during sex is great.
Who doesn’t love positive feedback? Nothing better than hearing, “that feels good,” to
excite you but, when you hear your partner say, “don’t do that, ” nothing takes away the
passion quicker than feeling inadequate. When you are between the sheets, keep things
positive and encouraging.

Listen to one another and compromise. This doesn’t mean you become a doormat taking
part in sexual acts you are uncomfortable with, this simply means you are willing to hear
what your partner has to say reaching a favorable outcome.

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And, try not to get hung up on, “should I do this or shouldn’t I?” Whatever is agreed upon
between two consenting adults is acceptable bedroom behavior.
When trust and commitment are at the forefront of a relationship it is than you will feel
comfortable enough to allow your inhibitions to be set free opening yourself up to new
experiences.

Sex is about intimacy and the connection between two people but it is also about pleasure.
What better way to experience true intimacy than to please your partner in a way they truly enjoy. As each person is an individual so is each libido. Find what works for the two of you, nurture the relationship, communicate your wants and desires and eventually that primal passion you felt in the beginning will come back.

Black Friday Love For Sale

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You think Grant can handle Black Friday?”

“Are you kidding? Just look at him,” directed my sister, Merryn, to the couch where the men were watching the Lions’ game. “At six-foot-four, he’ll be heads and shoulders over the crowds. Not to mention, he has the strength to push his way through to the bargains.”

For my family, Thanksgiving was a four-day event. The gigantic feast was just a prelude to the main event, Black Friday. Then on Saturday, we hauled the artificial pine from the basement. Getting into the full swing of holiday spirit, we decorated and wrapped gifts. Sunday was a day filled with football and more food.

“He may be beefy, but he’s too much of a Boy Scout,” Merryn scoffed. “He’ll be holding the door for all those old ladies.”

“I hope not,” I sighed, remem­bering the day we met.

The wheel of fate started spin­ning with a flat tire on the expressway. I struggled with the jack; not only did I not know where to put it, I didn’t have a clue how to use it.

“Need help?”

Turning, I looked up to sparkling blue eyes that contrasted with the stormy gray sky. My hand immedi­ately clutched my chest. It was too late. I’d already lost my heart. With my hands stuffed into my pockets, I watched his tall, mus­cular form work on the tire. It was changed in no time, and I was wishing all four were flat.

“Thanks,” I murmured. “Can I pay you?” I chewed my lip.

“No. But since I’m not familiar with this part of town, could you tell me where the best place to get a cup of coffee is?”

“Yes,” I nodded. “If you take the next exit and make a left, there’s the Moonbeam Café.”

“Would you care to join me?” He rubbed his hands briskly, com­bating the cold March breeze. “You look frozen.”

“I could use some coffee.” A pang of guilt hit me. “You’ve been so kind. Am I keeping you from anything?”

“Nope,” he grinned. “I’ve got nothing to do and all day to do it.”

Grant and I have been together since. Who knew broken glass on a highway could lead to romance? Merryn’s excited squeal brought me back from my daydream.

“Hey, did you see the price on Elmo?” Merryn lowered her voice to a whisper. “That’s what Noel wants for Christmas.”

“Add it to the list.”

“Would you girls put those sales flyers away and help me out?” Mom complained. “Nico, you set the table. Merryn, mash the pota­toes.”

The smell of roasted turkey and all the trimmings filled the house. The men—Dad, Grant, Merryn’s husband, Julian, and their four ­year-old Noel— had been clamoring for dinner. With the football game approaching halftime, it was best to get food on the table, and pronto!

“We’ll finish our strategy after dinner,” I said. “I think better on a full tummy.”

We all bowed our heads as Dad gave the blessings. Mom had outdone herself, again. Having raised daughters with picky eating habits, she was thrilled to cook for men with hearty appetites.

“More sausage apple stuffing?” she asked.

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“Better load up on seconds,” Dad kidded Grant. “You’ll need your strength for tomorrow. That daughter of mine will run you ragged.”

“I’m to blame for starting them down that path,” Mom confessed. “I gave up Black Fridays when Noel came along. I have to admit, they’ve turned it into an art form.”

“Art form?” Dad chuckled. “Is that what you call staying up all night, standing in the freezing cold with hundreds of other lunatics waiting for stores to open, just to save a few dollars? I call that crazy.”

Mom raised an eyebrow and promptly put him in his place. “Peter Quentin Barama, you’re the one who’s up at the crack of dawn traipsing through the woods in all kinds of weather still looking for that elusive Kirtland’s warbler. Yeah, who’s the crazy one? Those nuts didn’t fall far from the tree. Maybe I’m not to blame for the girls’ Black Friday obsession after all. Pass the mashed potatoes.”

Merryn and I exchanged knowing smiles. Mom and Dad had been lovingly jabbing at each other for thirty-five years. When I’m married, I wistfully think, hope it’s just wonderful.

“It’s one day out the year.” Julian winked at Grant. “Just do what they ask and no one gets hurt.”

“Uh-huh, you got that right,” Merryn agreed.

“Wouldn’t it be easier to shop online?” Grant asked.

“Yes, but this is tradition,” I explained. “It’s the thrill of the hunt.”

“Please tell me that nobody gets hurt?” Grant eyed me nervously.

“There’s no guarantee, my friend,” Julian laughed. “No guar­antee.”

“Yep. Hit your assigned stores and get everything on your list,” Merryn grinned wickedly. “And I won’t have to break your kneecaps.”

“What did I get myself into?” Grant’s deer-in-the-headlights look had the rest of the table cracking up with laughter.

After the meal ended, the men retreated to the couch for more football. Merryn and I helped Mom load the dishwasher and quickly got back to our pressing busi­ness. Hauling the flip board from the closet, I drew a line across the middle, dividing north and south.

“You and Grant will take the north wing, leaving Julian and I with the Henrietta area. Sound okay?”

“Honest, Nico, it was an acci­dent when I ran into Julian at the mall last year. I wasn’t spying on him.”

“Yeah, right.” I couldn’t keep the sarcasm from my voice. “The discounts are deeper this year because money is tighter. There’s no wiggle room for spying. You can peek once your gift is wrapped for all I care, but we’re talking about some serious shop­ping.”

“Okay, okay,” Merryn apolo­gized. “No spying.”

While Merryn clipped bonus coupons, I filled in the flip board with a rough map of store names and opening hours.

“So this is the war room?” Dad asked.

“S.S.H.H.,” I pressed a finger to my lips. “Strategic Shopping Home Headquarters.”

“I need a digital photo frame for your mother.” Dad lowered his voice to a whisper.

“Got it.” Merryn opened a flyer. “Will this do?”

“Perfect!” He smiled sheepishly. “Can you load photos in it, too?”

“You give me the pictures and I’ll get it all set up,” I promised.

“What are you getting Grant?” Merryn asked after Dad went back to the game.

“A laptop,” I told her.

“Wow! That’s expensive.” She eyed me curiously. “Should we be expecting an announcement?”

“No announcement.” I felt a blush creeping onto my face. Even though I moved in with Grant two months ago, we hadn’t discussed marriage. Not that I would turn him down. I loved him with all my heart, but Grant was an old-fash­ioned kind of guy. He needed his ducks in a row before he settled down. He suffered many sleepless nights over his still pending pro­motion.

“Back to business.” I ended that conversation. “Where are the envelopes?”

Each envelope was clearly labeled with the store and sale items. Bonus coupons were inside. The envelopes would be divvied up among the shoppers: Grant, Julian, Merryn, and me.

“Time to call the guys in?” Merryn asked.

“Time for pie,” Mom interrupt­ed. “Who has the best price on camcorders?”

“Check it out,” I motioned for her to sit.

Once again, we all gathered around the dining room table. Digging into pumpkin pie, we went over some of the finer details. “What’s the weather forecast?” I asked.

“Cold and a chance of snow,” Dad answered.

“Grant, you’ll come from the west. Your first stop is the elec­tronic store. It opens at four a.m., which means you’ll have to be in line no later than two-thirty,” Merryn explained, ignoring his shocked expression. “Then pro­ceed to the super center, and finally, the mall.”

“Two-thirty?” Grant gulped. “Just to shop?”

“Hey dude,” Julian spoke up. “Real men don’t shop, we buy!”

“That sounds better.” Grant and Julian knocked knuckles.

After Mom loaded us down with leftovers, Grant and I headed back to our apartment. “We should go to bed.”

“That’s exactly what I was thinking.” He pulled me into his arms.

“That’s not what I meant,” I kissed him playfully.

“Just what did you mean?” He returned my kiss and turned up the heat.

“I mean, we’d better get some sleep.”

A few short hours later, I nudged him. “Wake up, Grant.”

“Huh?” He opened a sleepy eye.

“It’s one o’clock. Jump in the shower.”

“Oh yeah, Black Friday, but the stores don’t open until four.”

“You have to be in line,” I reminded him, “or you don’t stand a chance of getting the door-busters.”

“Five more minutes, Nico,” he pleaded.

“No way.” I pulled back the cov­ers. “Into the shower.”

“Hey, no fair,” he grumbled, stumbling to his feet. “At least make some coffee.”

“Nope, can’t chance it. You’ll be standing in line and won’t be able to go to the bathroom.”

Minutes later, Grant was show­ered and dressed. I handed him the master list with a couple of lines blacked out. “In case one of us has trouble getting our assigned merchandise, keep this copy on you.”

“It’s not enough that I have to get everything on my list, now I may have to work on someone else’s list?”

“Don’t worry. There shouldn’t be any problems. Keep your cell phone on just in case.”

Kissing goodbye, we went our separate ways. A light snow had fallen, but the roads were clear. Within minutes, I was at my first destination. Darn! I wasn’t going to be the first in line. There were at least ten people ahead of me. Pulling my knitted cap over my ears, I rushed to stake my place in line.

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Chatting with the other shop­pers made the time pass. “What are you after?” one woman polite­ly asked.

“A laptop for my boyfriend; he’ll need it if he gets his promotion,” I told her. Before I knew it, I was pouring my heart out to a stranger. The promotion was bit­tersweet. Though it would provide more security, it would mean Grant would have to travel. Time apart can be rough on any relationship.

“Don’t worry.” She soothed my fears with sage advice. “Worries are like weeds—they’ll take over if you let them. True love can with­stand separation. With cell phones and computers, it’s much easier to keep in touch than it was in my day.”

We huddled, our backs to the cold, stiff wind. I mentally mapped the location of the laptops and DVD players. Ten minutes max, and I’d be on my way to the super center.

My cell phone rang. Three-fifty ­five, Merryn was checking in from the toy store. “Hey, what’s up?”

“I don’t know if I’m going to make it. I have to pee.”

I slapped my forehead. “You had coffee!”

“One cup,” she moaned. “Everyone is here for Elmo.”

“Hang on. A few more minutes and the doors will open.”

“Yeah, and I’m heading straight to the bathroom.”

Minutes later, the doors opened and the stampede began. The crowd gave a mighty shove, and I almost lost my balance. Sheer determination and adrenaline kept me on my feet. Rushing to the DVD players, I double checked the model number and snatched one up. For the laptop, I needed assistance, but I was still in the checkout line just shy of ten minutes.

Merryn called me as soon as I exited the store. “They sold out in less than five minutes.”

From the tone of her voice, I could tell she wasn’t one of the lucky ones. “I’m on my way to the super center. Maybe they have some left. Keep to your schedule and check in.”

As I backed out of the parking space, I dialed Grant. “Any luck?”

“Yeah, I found the digital frame and bought two more, one for my mother, and one for us. It was a great deal.” He sounded upbeat. Upon hearing about the missed Elmo, he promised to keep an eye out. “Nico? Nico? Are you still there?”

“Traffic is getting scary.” Slamming on my brakes, I barely missed a car that cut me off. “I’d better hang up.”

The congestion on the streets was no comparison to the congestion inside the stores. Shopping carts jammed the aisles as frustrated bargain hunters searched for the best deals. With my list, I was two steps ahead of them. I knew exactly what I wanted. No time was wasted dilly-dal­lying. Unfortunately, the checkout lines were long and agonizingly slow.

Tapping my foot, I glanced at my watch. The mall stores would be opening soon. My stomach growled. I threw a Snickers into the over-flowing cart. The cashier called for a price check and my blood sugar took a nose dive. I tore into it and added another one.

Thirty minutes later, along with a million other lunatics, I was inching my way to the mall. Carefully, I picked up my cell and checked in with Grant.

“Hi, Nico. Guess what? I found Elmo!”

“That’s terrific! Are you at the mall?”

“Not yet. It’s snowing and Ridge Road is a parking lot.” Frustration crept into his voice. “There must be an accident.”

“What lane are you in?”

“The right-hand lane. Why?”

“Get off Ridge as soon as you can.” I gave him directions via residential streets. “It’ll get you into the backside of the mall.”

“Thanks, sweetheart. Talk to you later.”

Finding the closest parking space near the department store, I joined the crowd outside to countdown the early opening. Past experience told me that the larger crowd was inside the mall, out of the weather. With any luck, Julian should be at the other end of the mall with his list while Merryn and Grant would be doing the same at another mall.

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The doors finally opened. I streamed in near the end of the line, but still received extra bonus coupons that were being handed out. Plowing through the crowds, I took the escalator to the lingerie department. Only after I’d picked out Nan’s fleece robe did I turn to the sexy nighties. A sheer black peignoir with lacy trim was my gift to myself.

“Gift boxes?” the clerk asked.

“Just for the robe.” I felt my face redden as the clerk gave me a grin that suggested I was going to rush home and try out my new uniform of seduction. Was the clerk psychic?

Making two trips back to my car, I safely locked my purchases out of sight in the trunk. Since this was the prime season for car break-ins, I was relieved to see extra security in the parking lot.

Catching my second wind, I went after the last few items on my list. It was close to noon and all the early sales were over, but cars continued to stream into the parking lot. I couldn’t wait to snatch up those odds and ends and escape.

Pressing Grant’s number into the phone, I got no response. Either the battery was dead or he’d turned it off. Merryn picked up on the first ring. “I’m already home,” she confessed. “Mom has her famous homemade turkey noodle soup on the stove. Better hurry before it’s all gone.”

“I’ve got a few more things to pick up and I’ll be there. Save some soup for me,” I pleaded.

A “forty percent off” sign caught my eye. Darting into the Bath & Body store, I filled up on stocking suffers. My shopping bag weighed a ton, and I wore my weariness like a heavy coat. I had hit the wall, head-on, like Wile E. Coyote. Over eight hours of solid shopping had gotten the better of me.

Merryn and Julian’s cars were in our parents’ driveway. I was disappointed not to see Grant’s. He’d never forgive me if he got stuck in a traffic jam for hours. Guilt consumed me as I remembered how I had to badger him into participating in this shopping spree. It would have been easier to nail Jell-O to a wall, but I wore him down.

I gratefully accepted the steaming hot coffee Mom offered, but waved off lunch. “I’ll wait for Grant.”

“Nonsense,” Mom said. “You’ll eat now. I’ve saved enough for whenever he gets here.”

I hadn’t realized how hungry I was till I took that first bite. The soup was delicious, and the grilled cheese hit the spot. With my second cup of coffee in hand, I began pacing, checking out the window.

“He’s probably at the airport catching the first flight out, if he’s smart,” joked Julian.

“Maybe he stopped for lunch,” Merryn said.

“No, he knew Mom was cook­ing.” I chewed my lip. “I’m going to bring my stuff in.”

“Great, I’ll help,” Merryn offered.

“Not on your life. You just want to snoop.” Most of the presents went to our old bedrooms to be sorted out the next day. We were on the honor system, but Merryn was easily tempted. “I’m taking your present back to my apart­ment.”

An hour later, Grant finally arrived. I rushed to meet him. He caught my wrist, holding me at arms length. “What’s wrong?” I asked.

“Nothing, I just want to look at you.”

My heart lodged in my throat. Was he getting ready to tell me he was fed up with my silly tradition?

“Are you hungry?” I choked out the words.

“Yeah, but I can wait.” His eyes were locked on mine.

“Is there something you want to tell me?” I stammered, brushing a lock of his sandy brown hair off his forehead. I was vaguely aware of my family gathered around. What I was aware of was the pounding of my heart.

“There’s something I want to ask you.” Grant sank to one knee. Reaching inside his coat, he pulled out a black velvet box. “This was the one purchase I couldn’t resist today. Nico Lynn Barama, will you be my wife?”

Tears of joy streamed down my face as I tried to force air into my lungs. I opened my mouth, but nothing came out.

“Don’t keep the man waiting.” Dad’s thunderous voice prompted me to speak.

“Yes. Yes,” I whispered, as my family applauded. “I will.”

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Celebrate Thanksgiving With Your Family and Your Planet

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Turkey:

Fifty years ago, Americans did not eat the over engineered bird that we consume today. We dine on heritage turkeys. Firmer, richer, juicier, and more flavorful–for these birds, gravy serves no purpose.

Find your turkey at www.localharvest.com

Use their convenient drop down menu to choose your state and view their selection of turkey farms. Pick your bird after browsing photos and prices. Be sure to start your turkey search well ahead of time. A heritage turkey will cost more, but resources are saved when you’re not cooking the turkey overnight or soaking it in brine. Knowing your bird wasn’t abused makes the taste that much more delightful.

If price is an issue, find organic or sustainable turkeys at specialty shops. Check your local farmers’ market, butcher shop, or organic grocery stores, like Whole Foods or Trader Joe’s (a less expensive natural store). Save a trip, and call first to ask if they carry turkeys labeled as “American Humane Certified,” or “USDA Certified Organic.” Look for phrases such as: “grass fed” and “heritage variety.”

A vegetarian Thanksgiving is another option–just skip the meat.

Beverages:

Save money and waste by serving tap water rather than bottled. Tap water near metropolitan areas is just as filtered as most bottled waters. About one-fourth of bottled water actually comes from city tap water sources.

Fixings:

Buy less food. Does anyone ever eat all of the leftovers? Not only will you save your own time, energy, and money, but you’ll also be reducing food’s packaging waste. buy any organic products that you can. Clip those coupons! If you don’t receive the newspaper, don’t worry. You’ll find more coupons online anyway. Search Google for coupons to local stores, and print.

A farmer’s market is another viable option. It’s pricier, but also fresher, free of chemicals, and genetically unmodified. You’ll be supporting your local farms and minimizing your carbon footprint at the same time. Again, if you’re near a Whole Foods or Trader Joe’s, you’re in the clear.

Find various farms in your zip code: www.localharvest.org

Dessert:

An uncarved pumpkin in the window or on your steps from Halloween transforms into a delicious homemade pumpkin pie!

Leftovers:

Use bones and turkey scraps for turkey soup. Layer stuffing, corn, yams, meat, and anything else for the English leftovers dish, bubble and squeak. It bakes like a casserole.

Enrich your soil while paring down on landfill deposits by composting any inedible scraps you may have.

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After the Feast:

Forget your TV. Tell stories around the table while food digests. Then take advantage of the crisp weather by bringing the party outside for a leisurely stroll. When you’ve had enough of the chill, come back for a few hands of cards or a board game.

Plan out your carpool route for Black Friday (environmentally friendly gifts can’t hurt). go your separate shopping ways once you arrive at your destination. You’ll save gas, mileage, and sanity by having someone in the car to talk to while stuck in traffic.

Remember, Thanksgiving is not about what you serve, but those whom you are sharing it with. Happy Thanksgiving!