Life in the 1940s

Chic and appropriately dressed for every occasion, the women of the 1940s were sassy, strong and adaptable. Think Katherine Hepburn!  World War II created extraordinary circumstances, requiring exceptional women, and you didn’t disappoint.  As men were shipped overseas, you took up their power tools (you knew how to operate an electric mixer after all!) and places at the assembly lines building ships and armaments. You succeeded at jobs no one ever dreamed a woman could do. Singles, married women, even mothers with small children, worked outside the home – to do so was patriotic. As food, gasoline and clothing were rationed, you organized the pantry, carefully planned meals and started sewing the family clothes.  Uncle Sam needed you and you would do whatever he asked! Continue reading

After Infidelity: Should You Make Up or Break Up?

 

ThinkstockPhotos-459139537An infidelity is a betrayal, a loss of trust. It is lying or disloyalty to one’s partner or lover. Infidelity may be sexual or emotional in nature and typically involves a third person. Infidelity does not necessarily involve physical separation, but can be characterized by emotional detachment as well. Emotional detachment can happen when you lose your partner’s trust, or if you lie to your partner or tell them half-truths. Betraying your partner may inflict a deep pain that is difficult to repair and sometimes causes irrevocable damage to the relationship that hastens its end. There are many things that can occur in the wake of an infidelity. If you are married, an infidelity could lead to divorce. If you are in a committed relationship, it could lead to a break up.

So what happens after infidelity occurs in your relationship? There are distinct stages a relationship goes through in the wake of an infidelity. Here they are:

1. Roller Coaster Stage: This is the time when strong emotions arise — emotions such as anger and self-blame followed by a period of introspection and appreciation of the relationship. Just like it says, your emotions go up and down, round and round and it’s a bit hard to figure out exactly where you are.

2. Moratorium Stage:This stage is a less emotional stage, at least for the person who was cheated upon. In this stage, the person affected tries to make sense of the betrayal. They may ask for more detail about the affair or retreat into themselves or quietly seek help from others regarding the issue.

3. Trust Building Stage: This stage takes place when the couple has decided to stay together. During this stage, the couple really tries to make their marriage work. ThinkstockPhotos-488960321They decide that a continued commitment to their relationship is important and with time, eventually forgiveness and trust can be achieved.

After an infidelity occurs, you may still find yourself often doubting your partner. Don’t lose heart, there is hope. Here are some signs that may indicate whether or not a  person is still worthy of your love:

  •  He/she expresses sincere remorse and regret for cheating on you.
  •  Heartfelt apologies feel true when you hear them.
  •  He/she accepts total blame for the betrayal.
  •  Your lover cuts off all contact with the third party.
  •  He/she shows a renewed appreciation, admiration, respect and devotion to only you.
  •  Your partner shows a willingness and openness to talking about what happened and why.
  •  He/she is willing and eager to go into marriage counseling with you.

If both of you are willing to participate in a deep, open, and honest conversation regarding your relationship and how you want to go forward, there is a good chance you will be able to work through your issues.

ThinkstockPhotos-160689431If, on the other hand, your partner is not open to discussing these things with you, and he is not demonstrating any of the possible reconciliation signs listed above, it may be time to cut your losses and get out.

Some additional signs that it might be time to end the relationship are: your partner seems to be more agitated than usual and seems to emotionally and physically withdraw from you. They may go out alone more often and may be making clandestine phone calls or working late hours. You might even receive anonymous phone calls at the house. If several of these things are occurring, then most probably your partner is cheating on you. If you find concrete evidence of that the infidelity has not stopped, then it’s probably a good idea to break up. A relationship based on lies lacks trust and lack of commitment is doomed to fail.

In the end, you have to make sure the blinders are off and that you make the best decision for you.

Breaking Up Is Hard-er To Do Celebrity Style

“Till Death Do Us Part,” or at least until ratings dip — Celebrity couples are all the rage, and the American public has a voracious appetite when it comes to reading about the relationship highs and lows of famous couples. But what goes up too often comes down, and this summer there seems to be a rash of couples calling it quits. Here are some of the heartbreaking break-ups:

Piggy and Kermit

piggy and kermitAfter nearly 40 years of being together, Miss Piggy and Kermit the Frog announced over Facebook that they are ending their relationship. “After careful thought, thoughtful consideration and considerable squabbling, Miss Piggy made the difficult decision to terminate our romantic relationship,” the two said on their respective Facebook pages.

While Piggy was coy, Kermit was keen to make clear that it was his porcine partner who had initiated the split.

“We will continue to work together on television (The Muppets/Tuesdays 8p.m. this fall on ABC. Not that this breakup would have anything to do with publicizing the show, of course.) and in all media now known or hereafter devised, in perpetuity, throughout the universe. However, our personal lives are now distinct and separate, and we will be seeing other people, pigs, frogs, et al. This is our only comment on this private matter,” the message continued. “Thank you for your understanding.”

Gwen and Gavin

gaving and gwenOn August 3, 2015, Gwen Stefani (No Doubt) and Gavin Rossdale (Bush) announce that they “will no longer be partners in marriage.”  And while it has been no easy ride, their 13-year-long marriage seemed like one of the most resilient in the music industry.

But with the news that Gwen Stefani, 45, has filed for divorce from 49-year-old Rossdale citing “irreconcilable differences,” they seem headed for an expensive financial battle. They are seeking joint custody of their three children. The couple said, “ We remain partners in parenthood and are committed to jointly raising our three sons.”

The couple’s combined fortune has been reported at more than $100 million. In addition to her lucrative music and TV career, Stafani has her own fragrance and fashion lines. Her empire is worth $80 million. Rossdale’s fortune is estimated at $35 million.

Ben and Jenn

ben and jennBen Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s 10-year marriage won’t get a Hollywood ending. The Academy Award® winner and his wife are getting divorced, with the news breaking on the day after the couple’s milestone anniversary.

“After much thought and careful consideration, we have made the difficult decision to divorce,” the couple said in a joint statement.

“We go forward with love and friendship for one another and a commitment to co-parenting our children whose privacy we ask to be respected during this difficult time.”

The actors, who met on the set of 2001’s Pearl Harbor but fell in love while filming the super hero flick, Daredevil, two years later, seemed destined for less off-screen drama after their glamorous June 29, 2005 island wedding on a Turks and Caicos island beach. According to People Magazine, Jennifer discovered that Ben “had been having an affair with their nanny for months – an allegation Affleck vehemently denies.” However, nanny Christine Ouzounian told friends that she and Ben had slept together and that they are in love.

Chris and Gwyneth

chris and gwenGwyneth Paltrow has distanced herself from the phrase “conscious uncoupling” – saying she did not write the now-infamous headline announcing her separation from former husband Chris Martin. Ms Paltrow blamed Elise Loehnen, the editor of her lifestyle website Goop, for using the term in a headline without warning her in advance. Whatever you want to call it, Paltrow said she and the Coldplay rocker, 37, remain close pals. “We’ve worked really f—ing hard to get to [this] point,” the Goop (a weekly lifestyle publication) founder noted. “But we’re very, very close, and it’s so nice. I feel like it’s, in a way, the relationship we were meant to have.”

Indeed, the exes have remained amicable, celebrating holidays together with their kids Apple, 10, and Moses, 8.

Chris Rock and Malaak Compton-Rock

chris rockIt’s not a punchline, Malaak Compton-Rock is seeking a huge chunk of Chris Rock’s $70 million fortune following their divorce.  The stay-at-home mom married the ex-Saturday Night Live star in 1996 after they met at the Essence Awards while she was working in public relations.

She soon gave up her career and became a full-time mother, court papers say.

Compton-Rock, 46, now spends much of her time caring for the couple’s kids — Lola Simone, 13, and Zahra Savannah, 11 — in their posh home in Alpine, NJ. The couple has agreed to a 50-50 split regarding custody of their children.

Rock filed for divorce amid rumors he was dating actress Rosario Dawson, who co-starred with him in last year’s film Top Five, which he also directed.

He said in a recent interview that the split had left him feeling “sad outta your f- -king mind.”

My Short Bout With ‘Internet Withdrawal’

 

TS-478005577 Computer addiction2By Katherine Sharma

Is “Internet withdrawal” a real thing? I know that I experienced a sense of helpless isolation and frustration last week when my Internet connection became sporadic (until a cable tech fixed a faulty connection). As someone who actually remembers the days before computers, it is astounding to realize how dependent on technology we are in our daily routines, our communications and our work life.

With unreliable Internet service, I had to scurry to support my marketing consulting clients, and some projects were necessarily delayed. Various transactions and communications for my daughter’s wedding were disrupted. I didn’t get my blog post done because it was prioritized below work. But most projects still proceeded, and social communications and e-mail responses were handled via smartphone.

TS-504134199 Students on ComputersYes, there was an underlying, anxious sense of disconnection, but it hardly seemed a symptom of a deeper disorder. In fact, per Wikipedia, Internet Addiction Disorder is a term coined in a satirical essay by Dr. Ivan Goldberg in 1995 and then taken seriously by researchers and, of course, the media, who have since produced new terms like problematic Internet use, compulsive Internet use, Internet overuse, pathological computer use and even iDisorder. All refer to Internet use that interferes with normal life–such as excessive computer game play, online gambling, porn viewing, shopping, constant social networking or workaholic behavior–to the extent that folks experience anxiety, depression and withdrawal symptoms similar to drug users if they go offline. It is not an official mental disorder in the Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders yet, but that doesn’t stop the media from headlining various studies documenting “Facebook addiction,” “Internet withdrawal” and its cousin “mobile phone withdrawal.”

In 2014, a Business Insider story noted that workaholics especially suffer withdrawal symptoms when cut off from the Internet (because they can no longer work 24/7). To be honest, maybe because, unlike my kids, I have lived in a world without digital technology, I soon banished anxiety over my temporary Internet loss with old-fashioned versions of Internet-enabled activities, like reading and face-to-face socializing. Frankly, I don’t think it’s the Internet that is the problem, except as a tool making it easier to indulge the real addictions: gambling, porn, workaholism, shopaholism, etc. But if you think you are afflicted by Internet dependency, maybe you should check out http://www.psychguides.com/guides/computerinternet-addiction-symptoms-causes-and-effects/

ABOUT  KATHERINE SHARMA

Katherine Sharma’s family roots are in Louisiana, Oklahoma and Texas. But after her early childhood in Texas, she has moved around the country and lived in seven other states, from Virginia to Hawaii. She currently resides in California with her husband and three children. She has also traveled extensively in Europe, Africa and Asia, and makes regular visits to family in India. After receiving her bachelor’s degree. in economics and her master’s degree in journalism from the University of Michigan, Katherine worked as a newspaper and magazine writer and editor for more than 15 years. She then shifted into management and marketing roles for firms in industries ranging from outdoor recreation to insurance to direct marketing. Although Katherine still works as a marketing consultant, she is now focused on creative writing.

5 Hilarious Reasons We Love Amy Schumer

 

amy schumer*Warning. This page is definitely NOT SAFE FOR WORK (NSFW).

 

Ever since her show, Inside Amy Schumer, premiered on Comedy Central, Amy Schumer has been a feminist force in the comedy world. With her show having been nominated for seven Emmys, this native New Yorker is really beginning to take off.  And this summer, she’s breaking onto the movie scene with a starring role in Judd Apatow’s Trainwreck. Ready to get to know her a little better? We’ve got you covered with 5 of her best moments … so far.

Wedding Objection

Amy can only sit patiently for so long. She knows some dark, dirty secret about the groom and she has to be the one to bring it up. Only problem is, she forgot what the secret was.

Foam

In this cute skit, Amy and a barista flirt over coffee and not a single word is said between them.

One Night Stand

Amy develops an intense relationship with a man she met the night before.

Football Town Nights

In this parody of Friday Night Lights, Amy and Josh Charles portray the small town texas coach and wife team who insist their players stop doing such horrible acts.

Stand-Up Special: My Slutty Friend

After moving to Connecticut to get married, Amy’s slutty friend has a whole new circle up stuck up girls in her life. Will Amy fit in? This bit is brought to life in the new movie Trainwreck.

trainwreckCatch more hilarious Amy Schumer action in her first feature film, Trainwreck. Now playing!

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New Movies To Love

 

southpaw2We want to take a look at some movies coming out in this week that we are really excited to see! From quirky indie romance, to big budget spy thrillers, we have you covered on your next date night!

Paper Towns

paper townsAdapted from the bestselling novel by author John Green (“The Fault in Our Stars”), PAPER TOWNS is a coming-of-age story centering on Quentin and his enigmatic neighbor Margo, who loved mysteries so much she became one. After taking him on an all-night adventure through their hometown, Margo suddenly disappears–leaving behind cryptic clues for Quentin to decipher. The search leads Quentin and his quick-witted friends on an exhilarating adventure that is equal parts hilarious and moving. Ultimately, to track down Margo, Quentin must find a deeper understanding of true friendship–and true love. 

Southpaw

southpawThe story of tragedy, loss and the painful road to redemption… Billy “The Great” Hope (Gyllenhaal) is the reigning Junior Middleweight Champion whose unorthodox stance, the so-called “Southpaw,” consists of an ineloquent, though brutal, display of offensive fighting…one fueled by his own feelings of inadequacy and a desperate need for love, money and fame. With a beautiful family, home and financial security, Billy is on top both in and out of the ring until a tragic accident leaves his wife dead and sends him into a downward spiral. His days now an endless haze of alcohol and prescription drugs, his daughter taken by Child Services and his home repossessed by the bank, Billy’s fate is all but sealed until a washed up former boxer named Tick agrees to take the bereaved pugilist under his wing so long as he agrees to his strict ethos. Relentless and utterly committed to a fighter that thinks as much as he throws punches, Tick rebuilds Billy into a new man: one that is agile, fearsome and uncompromising in the ring while thoughtful, loving and disciplined outside of it. Now, as he works to regain custody of his daughter and mounts a professional comeback, Billy must face his demons head-on as he learns that, sometimes, your greatest opponent can be yourself. 

Mission Impossible: Rogue Nation

mission impossibleEthan and team take on their most impossible mission yet, eradicating the Syndicate – an International rogue organization as highly skilled as they are, committed to destroying the IMF. Ethan Hunt’s highly effective but destructive Impossible Mission Force (IMF) has been disbanded by vengeful Washington bureaucrats such as the CIA chief (played by Alec Baldwin). But Hunt pulls his team together (Jeremy Renner, Simon Pegg, Ving Rhames and newcomer Rebecca Ferguson) to battle the shadowy force known as “The Syndicate” and its elusive leader (Sean Harris). 

Destination Affordable? Couples Can Save With Oceanside Nuptials

 

ThinkstockPhotos-480834697Tying the knot isn’t what it used to be. The wedding industry is as profitable as primetime football, celebrities compete for the shortest, most gimmicky marriages (72 days or less?) and the exotic appeal of a romantic getaway has led to the widespread popularity of destination weddings.

One in every 10 weddings features an exotic locale, or at least a location neither the bride nor groom calls home. While there’s no absolute explanation as to why destination weddings have started a bridal takeover, the hefty price of typical weddings is reason enough for many – especially if Daddy isn’t footing the bill.

“If done correctly, destination weddings can be a cheaper alternative for everyone. Guests don’t have to buy expensive gifts, just a ticket. All the money spent on the wedding party, venues, refreshments, cake, reception and decor is significantly reduced if not cut altogether,” explains Nini Pardo, wedding planner at Stay in Costa Rica, an accommodations and rental management company.

ThinkstockPhotos-452247129The author of Destination Weddings for Dummies, Susan Breslow Sardone, says the traditional American wedding costs an average of $28,082, whereas destination weddings average around $20,600.

“Some of the cost difference is definitely a result of resorts and hotels capitalizing on the trend. Many now offer the full wedding package with wedding planners, musicians, photographers, etc. We employ full-time wedding coordinators, like myself, to craft intimate weddings at our Los Suenos Resort,” Pardo adds. “We’ve found it really appealing to budget-conscious brides.”

Budget-conscious brides have become a trend as well, according to Patricia MacArthur, executive director of WeddingStar.com – a go-to authority on all things wedding-related. MacArthur says more brides are trimming expenses by taking the DIY route for guest favors and some decorative elements.

ThinkstockPhotos-187201446For tropical weddings especially, many of the cheaper, DIY options are more easily packed into suitcases. For instance, colorful fabric is being used to replace flowers and native delicacies are replacing towering cakes.

An extra tip from the experts, when considering the perfect setting to make your vows and possibly trash the dress: look at locations that are one flight away from you and most of your guests. Direct flights tend to be cheaper and less hassle.

Biggest Television Break-Ups: Couples We Never Liked Anyway

 

rossrachelBy Brianna Porter
There is nothing worse than watching two characters of a show (that you’re totally obsessed with, by the way) cruelly ripped apart by the writers before their relationship even flourishes. The thing is, the writers love the are-we-still-friends, when-do-I-get-my-stuff-back drama that can fill at least a few weeks’ worth of episodes. That’s because viewers really eat it up. For many, it’s easy to relate to and may even be a source of comfort, the “Been there, done that” kind of thing. But when you’re emotionally attached to a TV couple, as I’m sure everybody has been at least once in their life, it’s just cruel. So here’s a list of the biggest break-ups on television that we will pick apart until we have fully convinced ourselves that we really never cared for them, anyway.

 

1. Ross & Rachel — Friends

rossrachel2This Friends couple was easily in the running for cutest couple on the show, next to Chandler and Monica, of course. What wasn’t cute, though, was the amount of times they went back and forth in their relationship. Our weak Rosschel hearts couldn’t take much more of it. In the end, they got back together, but who is to say this time is the last? You burned us, writers!!

2. Buffy & Angel — Buffy the Vampire Slayer

buffyangelBuffy and Angel were literally polar opposites that ended up sorta/kinda dating. They eventually hooked up, which led to the inevitable release of Angel’s inner demon. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? We just wish we weren’t put through the emotional strife in the first place . . . you had one job, Buffy! You should have just killed him!

3. Nick & Jess — New Girl

nickjessFrom episode one, it was easy to predict that these two would end up together. One could argue that it is our fault that we believed a relationship from the get-go would be endgame, but we would rather argue that the whole show just plain sucks. Rebut that!!

4. Chuck & Blair — Gossip Girl

chuckblairThe only thing less fun than this couple’s unforgettable break-up scene is their relationship name: Chair. Still, Chuck and Blair seemed meant to be up until this point, and even after they mended things, that reasonable doubt stuck around, leaving viewers with weary hearts.

5. Piper & Larry — Orange is the New Black

piperlarryIf we’re entirely serious about any of these couples, it’s this one. While at first we could sympathize with Larry and his situation, the conclusion most viewers have come to is this: Larry is an ass. We’re Team Piper & Alex, anyway.

 

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What Your Dream-Home Style Says About You

 

TS-181401158 Woman on Chaise LoungeBy Katherine Sharma
I have bought and sold many homes over the years, from the affordable two-bedroom starter condo to the five-bedroom floorplan with a pool, and I am now at the stage where an empty nest and aging knees are pushing toward downsized, single-story simplicity. But because my oldest son is in the process of buying his first home, I began to think about architectural styles again–and what our preferences say about us.

It is an interesting question for fiction writers, who must create believable characters and their environments. If the protagonist lives in a romantic Victorian, an anonymous suburban tract home, an austerely decorated urban loft, or a luxurious mountain lodge in the pines, readers will make different assumptions about likely background, lifestyle and psychology

Of course, the house we dream of owning and what we can afford are not always the same; and a dissonance between desire and reality has its own interesting character ramifications. But let’s assume you can attain that dream home. What does your choice say about your personality?

TS-486919821 Dream Home 2Some research shows that if you like a Craftsman home, you tend to value home and family, and thus a style that is classic, functional and good for down-to-earth entertaining. If you dream of an ornate Victorian with turrets and gingerbread, you are probably both an art lover and a detail-oriented fan of traditional order. In contrast, if you yearn to move into an urban loft with an Industrial look–lots of exposed brick, raw wood and steel–you’re a more casual, eclectic soul, maybe with a tattoo or two.

If you’re not sure which home architecture really calls to you, discover your style preference with the attached quiz. You may be surprised! http://www.stylishhome.com/Design/Style-Maker-Quiz

ABOUT  KATHERINE SHARMA

Katherine Sharma’s family roots are in Louisiana, Oklahoma and Texas. But after her early childhood in Texas, she has moved around the country and lived in seven other states, from Virginia to Hawaii. She currently resides in California with her husband and three children. She has also traveled extensively in Europe, Africa and Asia, and makes regular visits to family in India. After receiving her bachelor’s degree. in economics and her master’s degree in journalism from the University of Michigan, Katherine worked as a newspaper and magazine writer and editor for more than 15 years. She then shifted into management and marketing roles for firms in industries ranging from outdoor recreation to insurance to direct marketing. Although Katherine still works as a marketing consultant, she is now focused on creative writing.