7 Reasons Some Women Think They Won’t Find Love

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No one should ever give up on finding love, it doesn’t matter if you are sixteen or one hundred and sixteen there is still the possibility of finding love and embracing it. Sadly, many women have been hurt and are afraid of falling in love again; they may have been searching for love with no success and have now reached the conclusion that they will never find lasting love again, these are the reasons why this can occur:

1. Hurt

When you are in a relationship you put your all into it and expect it to last forever. If the romance in marriage or in a relationship fails you are left disenchanted and emotionally hurt. You may well blame yourself for the failure of the relationship and even feel that you do not deserve to find love again. All of these factors are simply a way of dealing with the failure of the relationship and the hurt which goes with it. By deciding you will never find lasting love, you are protecting yourself from the hurt of a future failed relationship.

2. The Real Issue

In fact, falling in love is easy, what really worries the women who think they will never find love again is the idea of falling in love with the wrong man, again. Unfortunately they do not know of any other way to fall in love or even meet men; instead of trying an alternative solution they simply give up on the concept of love in marriage.

3. Awareness

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Sometimes a relationship ends because your partner has changed and they have moved on; other times it is simply because you were an incompatible match. It is often the case that women are attracted to the classic bad boy and this kind of relationship is not good for them. However, it is natural to repeat the cycle and you keep having failed relationships because you always go for the same type of guy. This can lead anyone to giving up on love. The end of a relationship is a perfect opportunity to take stock of yourself, your personality, your likes and dislikes and, most importantly, what you want and need from a relationship. You will then be able to work out the right type of man for you and chase the right bloke.

4. The Lesson

Many women feel that they are failures after their relationship has broken down, particularly if it was a long term one. However, the lesson to learn is not that other women are more attractive and worthy. It is better to realize that something was wrong with the bond and welcome some relationship advice; review your past relationships and you will realize there are one or two factors which are responsible for the breakdown of all these relationships. If these factors relate to you and the way you deal with a relationship then you can do something about it!

5. Giving Up

It is easy to try a new relationship and then give up, bemoaning the fact that you will never have a lasting relationship again. However, it is normal and helpful to sample different relationships and learn what works for you. You will never have the same relationship which you had with your old partner, but you can have a better one! The trick is to keep trying; no matter how many times you fail you will learn something each time and, eventually, find the right one to stand up for unforeseen relationship problems and work with you to fix them.

6. Sending Out a Message

If you have given up on men you will, unknowingly, send a message out which tells men to stay away. This means the majority of men will do that, the only ones who will approach are those who see you as a challenge; a way to build their ego. These men are after the chase and not love and marriage; it provides another opportunity to engage in the wrong relationship and believe you will never find love.

7. Believing they don’t want to love again

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Many women give up on love because they think they do not need it and will never find it again. This is actually a reaction to the break-up and not something that will last long term. At some point you will want to love again and you must believe that this is a possibility. Instead of believing it is not possible you should look to how you can make it better next time.

Women don’t believe in long-lasting love because they don’t want to get hurt. They’re afraid to open up. Truth be told, if there’s communication in relationships, we can all be happy. We just have to dare and take that leap of faith.

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6 Steps to Moving On After a Breakup


By Annabel Acton

Breakups. It’s not wholly surprising that the word break is in there. Broken hearts, broken trust, broken vases . . . it’s not a state you want to be in for long. As founder of Never Liked It Anyway — an online place to sell all that stuff you’re left with when a relationship ends — I’ve come across a few tactics for moving on . . . for better or worse. Some are smart, some are silly, and some are very effective. Here are some of the best I’ve come across so far:

1. Cut It Like It’s Hot

Now’s the time to preen it like you mean it! You don’t have to fall into the cliché boy-crop thing, but reinvesting a little extra love, time, and energy into your appearance (read: confidence) can help turn things around superfast. Try bangs. It will transform your look, and if you hate it, they’ll be gone (or at least pin-backable) in a month. At which point, you’ll probably be rocking your mojo again anyway.

2. Overwriting

This little technique involves going back to all the places you had special times with your ex and making even more fun memories with your friends. This cannot be done in halves. If you choose overwriting, go hard or go home.

3. Going, Going, Gone!

Think about it, why would you wear a necklace your ex bought you around your neck? Or stare at a painting you bought together at that cute art fair? Both psychologists and feng-shui experts agree that exorcising those bad reminders helps make space for new possibilities. Start with things you know you’ll never wear again — like jewelry — then move on to other things that just don’t fit with your new life.

4. Try Something New — Day Time

If you try to lead your exact same life, minus your lover, then of course all you’ll notice is a gaping hole. So now’s the time to try new things. Preferably social things. There’s the obvious choices like wine clubs or baseball teams, but why not surprise yourself and get a little whacky. Brooklyn Brainery is full of the unusual, like . . .

5. Try Something New — Night Time

A wise woman once said: “The best way to get over one man is to get under another.” You don’t have to go on a rampage or channel your inner Annabel Chong, but getting back on the horse (so to speak) is the best reminder that your ex wasn’t your one shot at happiness. Good, bad, or ugly, it will feel different to what you’re used to. But different is good, and at the very least, it’s progress.

6. I’m Sorry, Who?

Perhaps a little harsh, but seeing your ex’s Facebook feed is a handwritten invitation to the normally invisible crazy part of you to come out and twerk. It’s kind of like having a free donut table at fat camp. Disaster is inevitable. Until Facebook introduces a “de-friend for a while” option, it’s best to just cut that cord and protect your sanity.

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Annabel Acton is the founder of Never Liked It Anyway — a place to buy, sell and tell all things ex (as in exes) so you feel better faster. Going strong since 2012, it’s a fun, pro-active and positive way to move on from those dreaded breakups we all go through. Annabel is a creative strategist, entrepreneur, innovator and globe trotter. With her Never Liked It Anyway project, she’s committed to finding new and exciting ways to help people get back to fabulous.