Big Little Lies Series Delivers Superstars and Suspense

Woodley-Witherspoon-Kidman in BLL

Big Little Lies (HBO, 9 p.m.), a glossy, new 7-part series about rival moms in ritzy Monterey, California, would be notable if it only had Reese Witherspoon as its star and executive producer, but it also has Nicole Kidman, who co-exec produces, Shailene Woodley, Laura Dern, Zoe Kravitz, Alexander Skarsgard, and Adam Scott rounding out the cast.

Told through the eyes of three mothers – Madeline (Witherspoon), Celeste (Kidman) and Jane (Woodley) – Big Little Lies paints a picture of a town fueled by rumors and divided into the haves and have-nots, exposing the conflicts, secrets and betrayals that compromise relationships between husbands and wives, parents and children, and friends and neighbors.

Reese Witherspoon explained what drew her to the project in the first place: “With this piece I feel like it was such a unique opportunity to have women of every age, of every color, talking about motherhood … that’s the common denominator. Reese Witherspoon -- BLLMotherhood is the great equalizer. Parenthood is a good equalizer, socioeconomically, and everything brings these five different women together in a way that they clash but they also understand and discover each other.”

The pilot (which aired last Saturday the 19th) adapted from Liane Moriarty’s novel, has high-class bickering and behind doors marital tensions, but also at the center of it is a murder that is alluded to but not fleshed out for several episodes. Not only do we not know the culprit (it could be anybody of course); we don’t even know the victim. Woodley’s character is ostensibly at the center, since she’s a young, single mom and a newcomer to town, who is trying to fit in and get along with the privileged mommy group.

Kidman in BLLNicole Kidman was struck by the strength and quantity of female roles in the series: “This piece for me was the story of women that I know, and it was a way which we could go to other women with five great roles that were complicated and deserve to be told. It’s very rare to find five roles in one piece that we’d all jump at a chance to play.”

Co-Exec Producer David E. Kelley (The Practice) adapted the Moriarty best-seller on which the limited series is based, with the setting changed to Monterey from Australia, with Moriarty’s blessing. Big Little Lies is really into the marriage of apparent opposites: congenial and contemptuous, beautiful and ugly, loving and abusive, big and little. Everything with these characters is simmering resentment, very low-key microaggressions, and secrets—there aren’t the big epic takedowns and glasses of water in the face one might be conditioned to expect from a story about rich housewives one-upping each other. It’s all very subtle, and for every dig, there’s a thousand self-deprecating remarks, concessions, and compliments.

Moms with Kids in BLL

From the book:

Sometimes it’s the little lies that turn out to be the most lethal…
A murder…a tragic accident…or just parents behaving badly?  
What’s indisputable is that someone is dead. But who did what?

Big Little Lies follows three women, each at a crossroads:

  • Madeline is a force to be reckoned with. She’s funny and biting, passionate, she remembers everything and forgives no one. Her ex-husband and his yogi new wife have moved into her beloved beachside community, and their daughter is in the same kindergarten class as Madeline’s youngest (how is this possible?). And to top it all off, Madeline’s teenage daughter seems to be choosing Madeline’s ex-husband over her. (How. Is. This. Possible?).
  • Celeste is the kind of beautiful woman who makes the world stop and stare. While she may seem a bit flustered at times, who wouldn’t be, with those rambunctious twin boys? Now that the boys are starting school, Celeste and her husband look set to become the king and queen of the school parent body. But royalty often comes at a price, and Celeste is grappling with how much more she is willing to pay.
  • New to town, single mom Jane is so young that another mother mistakes her for the nanny. Jane is sad beyond her years and harbors secret doubts about her son. But why? While Madeline and Celeste soon take Jane under their wing, none of them realizes how the arrival of Jane and her inscrutable little boy will affect them all.

Zoe Kravitz in BLLBig Little Lies is a brilliant take on ex-husbands and second wives, mothers and daughters, schoolyard scandal, and the dangerous little lies we tell ourselves just to survive.

“It’s so refreshing to spend time with all of these women,” Witherspoon added, giving a nod to her cast for the “collective performance,” going as far to say, “I really feel more strongly than anything I’ve ever done, and this is the greatest ensemble experience I’ve ever had.”

Gorgeously shot, neatly directed and beautifully acted from start to finish, Big Little Lies is an achievement in almost every way. It should get lots of Emmys, unless its superstar leads cancel one another out.

5 Ways He’s Saying “I Love You”

Romantic Hispanic couple in a park

One of the biggest steps in a relationship is when one person decides to say those three little words: No, not “I got food,” the other important words.

Saying “I love you” catapults your relationship into a new level. No longer are you only “in a relationship,” but now you’re in love. Those words hold a severity that can put a lot of pressure on the parties involved.

Once you reach the point where the L-word starts creeping into your mind, there’s a million new things that you start to stress over:

Should I say it first? Why hasn’t he said it? How do I know if he feels the same way?

If your boyfriend hasn’t dropped the L-bomb yet, though it can be tempting to start questioning the sincerity of your relationship, don’t start to worry quite yet. Words are just that—words. They are meaningless if they’re not reinforced through your significant other’s actions.

Even if he hasn’t said that he loves you, there are many different ways he could be showing his love for you—you just have to pay attention.

Here are a few signs that your boyfriend does love you, he just hasn’t told you yet.

  1. Asking About Your Day

Couple deep in conversation

It may seem like common sense, but when someone loves you, they care about your well-being. If your boyfriend, completely unprompted, takes the time to ask you about your day, that’s a good indication that he cares about you.

But not just that.

It’s important that you distinguish between him asking for the sake of conversation and him asking because he genuinely wants to hear the response. If your boyfriend is really falling in love with you, he will listen as you complain about what your coworker said at work, or that project that you need to finish, or what drama is happening between your girlfriends this week.

Maybe he’s not saying “I love you,” but he is saying: I’m invested in this conversation and I’m invested in this relationship. I’m here for the long haul.

  1. Remembering the Little Things

Couple relaxing together at home

You most likely spend a lot of time talking to your significant other, and, in that time, you share a plethora of details: your favorite ice cream flavor, what you’re looking forward to, what your scared of, etc. You may think all that information goes in one ear and out the other, but your boyfriend remembering all the quirky little things about you is a sure sign that he’s feeling the love.

Maybe he calls you right after your big meeting because he remembered the time and that you were anxious about it. Maybe he instinctively grabs your hand during the part of a movie that he knows scared you. It could be as simple as him sending you a picture of something that he knew would make you laugh.

As cliché as it sounds, it’s the little things that count the most.

Maybe he’s not saying “I love you,” but he is saying: I’m paying attention to you and what makes you happy.

  1. Making Sure You Get Home Safe

A smiling girl looking at her mobile phone

Like I said earlier, if he loves you, he cares about your well-being. This means making sure that you are always safe and taken care of.

Just a simple text of “let me know when you get home,” or “did you get home safe?” is a small gesture of love. Your boyfriend can’t always be with you, so taking the time to check in on you shows how much effort he’s putting into your relationship and how much he cares about you.

Similarly, if he checks in to ask if you’ve eaten or if you’ve taken your medicine, he’s making an effort to take care of you.

Maybe he’s not saying “I love you,” but he is saying: I worry about you and want to make sure you’re safe.

  1. Letting You into His Life

Portrait of happy young couple on scooter enjoying road trip

While him listening to you talk about your day can be a sign of his love, telling you about his day can also be a big indicator. If he calls you just to unload some stress from work or tell you a joke he overheard, he’s opening up his life to you and he wants you to be a part of it.

Maybe he lets you in on secrets or starts to open up about his family. Whenever he allows himself to be vulnerable or to let down some of his defenses, he’s showing you that you’re the person he can be himself around.

Maybe he’s not saying “I love you,” but he is saying: I trust you and feel comfortable enough to tell you anything.

  1. Introducing You to His Friends and Family

Group Of Friends Enjoying Meal In Restaurant

To me, this is one of the surest signs that he’s falling in love. This is a huge step in merging your lives together and it can, sometimes, be a make-or-break moment.

If he proudly introduces you to his friends and family, he wants everyone he’s closest to to care about you as much as he does. Put simply, he sees a future with you. If a guy is still unsure of his feelings, he’ll try to keep your relationship quiet. Telling everyone he knows is a big commitment; if you break up, that’s a lot of people who are going to have questions.

Maybe he’s not saying “I love you,” but he is saying: I’m proud that you’re mine and I want everyone to know it.

Enduring Appeal of the Pilgrimage Experience

Girl walking on Camino de Santiago

I just returned from India, and part of the trip included visits to beautiful South Indian Hindu temples, which were very crowded because we unknowingly arrived during the local pilgrimage season. Groups of men lined every dusty road, rested in fields, dodged through city traffic and eventually jammed the temple grounds with devotion.

They were dressed simply and minimally, carried little and lived austerely, and traveled in clusters by friendship, family, community or chance-met camaraderie. They had left their homes and embarked on foot to seek epiphany, transformation, redemption or perhaps just an adventurous escape from the daily grind.

canterburyReligious pilgrimage is as common in modern India as it was in Medieval Europe, when it inspired Geoffrey Chaucer’s classic The Canterbury Tales. But you don’t have to go back in time or to exotic lands for a pilgrimage experience. If you think of a “pilgrimage” as a journey of personal or spiritual significance, you can become a pilgrim right now in America.

 

 

 

wildFor example, the popular Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed describes a kind of pilgrimage. In the wake of her mother’s death and a failed marriage, a damaged young woman decides to hike more than a thousand miles of the Pacific Crest Trail, alone and without training, and ultimately heals herself.

 

 

 

pilgrimIn the Pulitzer Prize-winning nonfiction book The Pilgrim at Tinker Creek, author Annie Dillard describes a metaphysical journey through a dramatic year in Virginia’s Roanoke Valley, exploring nature and its seasons near her home while recording both her scientific observations and her thoughts on solitude, nature and religious faith.

 

 

 

alchemistThe international award-winning novelist Paulo Coelho has written lyrically about pilgrimage, too. He is best known for The Alchemist–about an Andalusian shepherd boy whose dream of treasure sends him on a quest to the Egyptian desert–but before he wrote that fictional tale, Coelho penned The Pilgrimage about his own spiritual quest along the famed pilgrimage route of the Camino de Santiago, still the most popular long-distance trail in Europe.

 

 

Inspired to follow in his footsteps? Check out the many recent pilgrim accounts or guides: https://www.amazon.com/Pilgrimage-Road-Santiago-Complete-Cultural/dp/0312254164 

ABOUT  KATHERINE SHARMA

Katherine Sharma’s family roots are in Louisiana, Oklahoma and Texas. But after her early childhood in Texas, she has moved around the country and lived in seven other states, from Virginia to Hawaii. She currently resides in California with her husband and three children. She has also traveled extensively in Europe, Africa and Asia, and makes regular visits to family in India. After receiving her bachelor’s degree. in economics and her master’s degree in journalism from the University of Michigan, Katherine worked as a newspaper and magazine writer and editor for more than 15 years. She then shifted into management and marketing roles for firms in industries ranging from outdoor recreation to insurance to direct marketing. Although Katherine still works as a marketing consultant, she is now focused on creative writing.

Honor Valentine’s Day With Romantic Mysteries

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Happy Valentine’s Day reading!

First, a bit of personal background: My husband and I went on our first date 42 years ago on Valentine’s Day. It was a disappointing event, to be honest, but there was enough spark to encourage another outing, and the rest is history.

rebeccaIt seems appropriate to celebrate the romantic holiday with some romantic-mystery/mystery-romance genre mating. Maybe start by revisiting the popular “gothics” of my teen reading years: Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier, Nine Coaches Waiting by Mary Stewart, Dragonwyck by Anya Seton and Wings of the Falcon by Barbara Michaels.

 

 

 

belongFor more modern fare, try You Belong to Me by Karen Rose, in which a sexy widower cop and a troubled medical examiner find love while investigating a serial killer, or Heartbreaker by Julia Garwood as against-the-odds romance blossoms amid another serial murder case.

 

 

 

moneyOr, embrace Stephanie Plum, the protagonist of Janet Evanovich’s popular series, for her debut with One for the Money, in which Stephanie takes a job hunting bail jumpers for a quick buck and is soon on the trail of a hot ex-beau with a price on his head while getting training from the studly “Ranger.”

 

 

 

 

possessionAll of these are sturdy romantic mystery entries, but, if you’re looking for more literary prose, read the Booker Prize-winning best-seller Possession by A.S. Byatt. Described as a “novel of wit and romance, an intellectual mystery, and a triumphant love story,” the tale is built around a pair of young scholars researching the lives of two Victorian poets through their letters, journals, and poems, and tracking the dead poets’ movements from London to Yorkshire, with seances and fairy lore along the way.

For additional romantic mystery options: http://bestmysterybooks.com/best-romantic-mystery-books.html

ABOUT  KATHERINE SHARMA

Katherine Sharma’s family roots are in Louisiana, Oklahoma and Texas. But after her early childhood in Texas, she has moved around the country and lived in seven other states, from Virginia to Hawaii. She currently resides in California with her husband and three children. She has also traveled extensively in Europe, Africa and Asia, and makes regular visits to family in India. After receiving her bachelor’s degree. in economics and her master’s degree in journalism from the University of Michigan, Katherine worked as a newspaper and magazine writer and editor for more than 15 years. She then shifted into management and marketing roles for firms in industries ranging from outdoor recreation to insurance to direct marketing. Although Katherine still works as a marketing consultant, she is now focused on creative writing.

Fitzgerald: A Master of Love, Longing & Popular Girls

 

 

scott and his american girlBy Kirk Curnutt

In a 1922 letter to his agent, Harold Ober, F. Scott Fitzgerald expressed frustration that one of his most creative stories, “The Diamond as Big as the Ritz,” didn’t fetch as much money in the short-story marketplace as the tales of flapper-and-philosopher love he cranked out for the Saturday Evening Post: “I am rather discouraged that a cheap story like “The Popular Girl” written in one week while the baby [daughter Frances] was being born brings $1500.00 + a genuinely imaginative thing into which I put three weeks real enthusiasm [sic] like [“Diamond”] brings not a thing,” he grumbled.

His frustration is understandable. Today, “The Diamond as Big as the Ritz” is recognized as an inventive critique of the unstable monetary values of the 1920s, as close to sci-fi as the author of The Great Gatsby would come. Yet ninety years ago, as Fitzgerald’s recently digitized ledger reveals, it pulled in a whopping $300, barely enough to cover a bar tab. But just because “Diamond” stands as one of the Top Ten stories the author wrote doesn’t mean “The Popular Girl” is one of his ten worst. For most of the Twentieth Century, however, “cheap” is precisely how critics described the bulk of the 65 Post stories he produced between 1920 and 1937: they were mere entertainments written to finance “genuinely imaginative thing[s]” such as Gatsby and Tender Is the Night.

the camels backWe probably have Ernest Hemingway to thank for turning this idea into conventional wisdom. In the posthumously published A Moveable Feast, Hemingway took great pleasure in rubbing his rival’s nose in his reputation as a Post contributor, insisting Fitzgerald had confessed to dumbing down his work to appease its 2.7 million readers: “He had told me … he wrote what he thought were good stories, and which really were good stories for the Post, and then changed them for submission, knowing exactly how he must make the twists that made them into salable magazine stories.… He said it was whoring but that he had to do it as he made his money from the magazines to have money ahead to write decent books.”

To a certain extent, the reputation of Fitzgerald’s popular fiction has always reminded me of the reputation of the popular girls I went to high school with. For those of us who didn’t move the needle on the popularity meter, prom queens, cheerleaders, and student-council candidates were easy to deride as superficial and shallow. They were careerists and glad-handing phonies whose inner lives couldn’t possibly be as complex and conflicted as us overlooked, tortured souls. Conformity and insipidity had to be the currency by which they won friends and influenced people—how else to explain why profundists such as ourselves couldn’t entertain anybody’s eye? Yet if Molly Ringwald taught us nothing else in The Breakfast Club, it’s that popular girls have feelings, too, and those feelings hurt every bit as badly as ours when trampled. If Judd Nelson is man enough to learn that lesson, why can’t we literary critics who continue to assume that commercial fiction must equate to “cheap”?

When I reread the seven early Post stories collected in Gatsby Girls, I’m struck by how empathetic they are to their heroines’ romantic dreams and aspirations, as well as how fully aware they are of the limits of Jazz Age gender roles. These are plots that hinge on assuming disguises and creating spectacles to demonstrate that the excitement we demand of love is not only possible but sustainable.

off shore piratesIn “The Offshore Pirate,” a man presumed to be a bore reinvents himself as a pirate and hatches a cheeky kidnapping ruse to prove he’s no dullard. In “The Camel’s Back,” another man slips into a costume-shop camel suit to dupe his gal into marriage. And in the much-maligned “The Popular Girl,” a dashing beau plays dumb, allowing himself to be long-armed and toyed with so the deb of his dreams gains a measure of independence and resolve before he rescues her from financial ruin.

When the games and ruses work, the stories celebrate the mutuality we also expect of romance: the joke of “Head and Shoulders” is that Horace and Marcia are so compatible that they take on aspects of each other’s personality, reversing the roles of intellect and spirit in the relationship.

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First-time readers may be surprised to discover that these extravaganzas don’t always work. Wait—aren’t commercial stories obliged to end happily? Not in Fitzgerald’s world. In “Myra Meets His Family,” a debutante discovers that her flame hoodwinks her not out of ardor but of fear. He’s terrified she’s after his money. Insulted, Myra turns the tables on him in a way that teaches him to never again fall for the stereotype of the “husband hunter.” In “The Ice Palace,” a Southerner discovers that behind her Northern betrothed’s façade of gallantry are hardcore regional prejudices that will prove a deal-breaker. Even when the stories do end in matrimony, there’s recognition that not everything is automatically rosy. When Betty Medill agrees to marry Perry Parkhurst in “The Camel’s Back,” it’s not because she’s finally ready to jump the broom—it’s because the impatient Perry has contrived a booby trap that’s so fool-proof she has no other choice.

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Then there are stories that aren’t about love at all but about social customs, etiquette, and the perils of the social faux pas. “Bernice Bobs Her Hair” is a certified Fitzgerald classic because it wickedly captures his awareness of the way class customs shape character. At the end of the day, we may not remember that this story appeared in an era when Bible scholars pontificated against hairstyle revolutions and legislators actually tried to outlaw short hair on women; we delight instead in the revenge plot Fitzgerald contrives for his fish-out-of-water character and for the cheap shot her nemesis takes at Louisa May Alcott: “What modern girl could live like those inane females?” Marjorie rails against Little Women. To the emerging flappers of 1920, the March sisters were so your-mother’s-generation. And that’s also a charm of these stories: the dialogue is chockfull of spunk and verve. When Ardita Farnam in “Pirate” boasts that “[Men] tell me I’m the spirit of youth and beauty,” her captor asks how she responds to such compliments: “I agree quietly,” she smiles. You can almost feel young women across America stepping out of the dreary shadows of propriety to revel in such a coquettish strutting of stuff.

bernice bobs her hairFor all the vivacity and exuberance that marks these stories, they’re also streaked with trademark Fitzgerald melancholy. There’s something charmingly poignant about Sally Carrol Happer in “The Ice Palace” longing for a kiss that will make “all her smiles and tears … vanish in an ecstasy of eternal seconds.” Or of Yanci Bowman in “The Popular Girl” imagining the exciting life she would lead if only she lived in New York: “She adored New York with a great impersonal affection—adored it as only a Middle Western or Southern girl can. In its gaudy bazaars she felt her soul transported with turbulent delight, for to her eyes it held nothing ugly, nothing sordid, nothing plain.” Fitzgerald knew how to render his characters’ naiveté in a way that makes their dreams at once achingly palpable and unrealizable.

So what’s so “cheap” about “The Popular Girl” and her sisters in Gatsbyhood? Only the price of admission. These are stories that may have been written to charm the marketplace, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t rich and rewarding reads. They reverberate with beauty and joy and a desire to experience a word we don’t get to use much anymore: splendor.

(Kirk Curnutt is professor and chair of English at Troy University’s Montgomery Campus in Montgomery, Alabama, where he also serves as a director of the Alabama Book Festival. His thirteen books include two novels—Breathing Out the Ghost (2008) and Dixie Noir (2009)—and studies of Gertrude Stein, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Ernest Hemingway, and the Beach Boys’ Brian Wilson.)

 

 

 

Amazon’s Z Explores the Passionate, Tumultuous Life of the Original Gatsby Girl

 

Amazon Original PosterShe was beautiful, impulsive, carefree, and determined to make a name for herself. Zelda Fitzgerald, the subject of a new Amazon series, was the iconic woman of the 1920s Jazz Age and the inspiration for many of writer F. Scott Fitzgerald’s female characters. Her reputation as a party girl undermined her talent and her intelligence, and her complicated, self-destructive relationship with her husband was the love story of the era.

In 1918, F. Scott Fitzgerald met and fell in love with a judge’s daughter, Zelda Sayre, and she accepted his proposal of marriage.  Five months later, though, she broke off the engagement when she realized he didn’t earn enough money for her comfort.  As Daisy Buchanan tells Gatsby in The Great Gatsby, “Rich girls don’t marry poor boys.”  So Fitzgerald set out to make as much money as he could as quickly as he could, to win back his love. (Read more about F. Scott Fitzgerald’s short stories with heroines inspired by Zelda. See a collection of those stories in F. Scott Fitzgerald’s Gatsby Girls.)

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Zelda and F. Scott Fitzgerald’s marriage was a turbulent one. The warning signs were there from the beginning; the first time Fitzgerald came to the Sayre family’s home, Zelda said something to upset her father, who grabbed a carving knife and chased her around the dining room. And though he admired his wife for “her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self-respect,” her flamboyant behavior did as much to keep the Fitzgerald name in the papers as his writing throughout the 1920s. (Read more the Fitzgerald’s lives in F. Scott & Zelda: A Marriage on Fire.)

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Shortly after meeting Zelda, Fitzgerald began rewriting This Side of Paradise to make the character of Rosalind more like her, and even used passages from her diary to flesh out the novel. The inspiration she gave him extended throughout his fiction, including the Saturday Evening Post stories that are collected in BroadLit’s Fitzgerald’s Gatsby Girls. As he once said, “I married the heroine of my stories.”

Z Close-up with Cigarette

If American girls hadn’t seen any of these carefree modern women on the streets of their own provincial towns, they could be glimpsed in the stories’ illustrations: elegant, slender figures lounging around a bar or coupé, wearing loose, sleeveless dresses, cloche hats, and dark lipstick that emphasized their carefree smiles. This modern woman—who, in time, would be called the “flapper”—was no mere creation of fiction.  There was a living example, and her wild escapades were often reported in the newspaper.  Her name was Zelda Fitzgerald and her impetuous self-indulgence and irresistible charms were captured repeatedly in the stories of her husband.  “I married the heroine of my stories,” Fitzgerald said.  Nobody better represented the impulsive, fashionable, carefree American woman of the 1920s. (Read more in F. Scott Fitzgerald and His Beautiful, Independent, Tempestuous American Girls)

Z & Scott kissing in Park

In recent years, feminist critics have done much to rehabilitate Zelda Fitzgerald’s image. She can no longer be simply dismissed as an unstable “party girl,” and the creative efforts her own husband frequently disparaged—perhaps out of jealousy—can be seen in a new light. And she remains an iconic figure for many. In the last few years, there are two new novels based on her life: Erika Robuck’s Call Me Zelda and Therese Ann Fowler’s Z, which was adapted for television and recently launched as a new series on Amazon.

Amazon’s Z: The Beginning of Everything is a fictionalized bio series of the life of Zelda Sayre Fitzgerald, the brilliant, beautiful and talented Southern Belle who becomes the original flapper and icon of the wild, flamboyant Jazz Age in the ‘20s.

 Z & Scott Running on Sidewalk

Z starts from the moment Zelda meets the unpublished writer F. Scott Fitzgerald in 1918 and moves through their passionate, turbulent love affair and their marriage — made in heaven, lived out in hell as the celebrity couple of their time. The series travels through the wild parties, the wicked jazz, the dissolute artists of the era, as well as the alcoholism, adultery and struggle with dashed dreams and mental illness that characterizes their later years.

Zelda in Car

Z dives into the fascinating life of a woman ahead of her time, an artist determined to establish her own identity in the tempestuous wake of a world-famous husband. It pulls back the curtain on her triumphs and dark secrets. It’s a modern take on one of the most notorious love stories of all time, played out in salons and speak-easies from Montgomery, Alabama to the Cote D’Azur.

Z--Christina Ricci in Gown

Such stories can give us a new, richer perspective on a woman previously only acknowledged as the shadow behind the characters in her husband’s fiction.

Fitzgerald’s modern tales of yearning and ambition shaped today’s fiction, but his short stories, and his Gatsby Girls, helped create today’s society and the expectations of America’s women.

Life of F. Scott Fitzgerald

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Life of f. scott fitzgerald timeline

  • September 24, 1896 FSF birthday
  • September, 1913 Enrolled at Princeton
  • 1917 Dropped out of Princeton, enlisted in U.S. Army
  • 1917 wrote The Romantic Egoist
  • 1918 Met Zelda in Alabama
  • 1918 Moved to New York to work at Barron Collier
  • 1919 Returned to St. Paul to revise The Romantic Egoist
  • February 21, 1920 Saturday Evening Post begins printing FSF’s stories
  • March 26, 1920 This Side of Paradise published
  • April 3, 1920 Married Zelda in NYC
  • October 26, 1921 Daughter born
  • 1922 The Beautiful and Damned published
  • April, 1924 Moved to Paris
  • 1924 Moved to Antibes
  • April 10, 1925 The Great Gatsby published
  • 1927 1st trip to Hollywood
  • 1930 Zelda hospitalized for the 1st time
  • January-April, 1934 Tender is the Night published in Scribners’ magazine
  • 1934 Tender is the Night published in book form
  • 1935 2nd trip to Hollywood
  • Contract with MGM
  • 1939 MGM contract terminated
  • 1940-1941 Pat Hobby stories published
  • December 21, 1940 Died in Hollywood apartment of Sheilah Graham
  • 1948 Zelda dies in fire at mental hospital

Romance Lives! 12 Foods for Lovers This Valentine’s Day

Dinner table setting with Valentines message and red tulips

By Grace Mercado at Foodtrients.com

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, our thoughts turn to adding a little more love and romance to our lives. Can certain foods boost romantic relationships and enhance sexual desire? According to St. Thomas Aquinas, aphrodisiac foods had to produce good nutrition and a “vital spirit.” In other words, the nutrients that contribute to overall well-being will also help to ensure a healthy love life. Chocolate is typically at the top of my list for Valentine’s Day, particularly dark chocolate. It truly is one of the best superfoods for lovers. Dark chocolate can help relieve stress, sharpen our minds, improve blood flow and even aid weight loss. Read more about the great benefits of chocolate, and where to find some delicious varieties in my 6 Super Reasons (Excuses) To Love Chocolate. But chocolate is not the only food that can boost the libido, here are 12 suggestions that are not only delicious, but will help keep romance in your life:

Avocados

Avocado with fresh ingredients

Rich in heart-healthy, energy-boosting monounsaturated fats, avocados help keep blood flowing to all the right places. According to the Prevention website, they’re full of libido-boosting vitamin B6,folic acid, and vitamin E, which is often called the “sex vitamin” due to its youth-boosting antioxidant properties and ability to increase oxygen and blood flow.

Almonds and Walnuts  assorted nuts

Both contain energy-boosting protein and are rich in trace minerals that are important for sexual health and reproduction, such as zinc, selenium, and vitamin E. They also contain omega-3 fatty acids that keep blood flowing to where it needs to be.

Strawberries

Strawberries

Red, ripe, heart-shaped strawberries are an excellent source of folic acid, a nutrient that helps ward off birth defects and has also been associated with higher sperm counts. And what could me more romantic than strawberries dipped in dark chocolate and shared with a loved one?

Watermelon

Watermelon slices on the wooden table

Watermelon may be 92 percent water, but the remaining 8 percent is packed with compounds that can keep your love life vibrant. Research out of Texas A&M University suggests that the lycopene, citrulline, and beta-carotene all found in watermelon may relax blood vessels, which is similar to how medications such as Viagra® work.

Seafood

Freshly caught oysters on crushed ice

Oysters are traditionally considered ‘aphrodisiac’ and they happen to be one of the best sources for zinc, a mineral necessary for testosterone production. Oysters also contain a good amount of vitamin B-12, which helps keep blood vessels elastic and free-flowing. Oily fish like wild salmon and herring contain heart-healthy omega-3 fats which help keep your heart pumping and can also raise dopamine (feel-good) levels in the brain. For a heart-healthy, romantic meal, try preparing Salmon with Ginger Apricot Sauce from my book, The Age BEAUTIFULLY Cookbook.

Arugula and Lettuce  rucola in a wooden spoon

Arugula contains trace minerals and antioxidants that block absorption of environmental contaminants that can negatively impact libido. Iceberg lettuce, besides being a slimming food, contains an opiate that helps to activate sex hormones, according to Jenna Birch of Fitness The recipe for Arugula and Radicchio Salad (see Recipe below) from The Aging BEAUTIFULLY Cookbook is colorful and satisfying.

Asparagus

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Sometimes, it’s the shape of a certain food that accounts for its sex drive boosting appeal. In addition to its appearance, asparagus contains plenty of folate and vitamin B6, which can boost reproductive health. Serve Citrusy Asparagus from my Age BEAUTIFULLY Cookbook and you’ll be packing a lot of romance-enhancer into the meal!

Broccoli

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Full of folic acid, broccoli is also a good source of vitamin C, which aids blood circulation to organs and, according to dietitian Keri Glassman, provides a boost to female libido.

Figs

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Figs are a sexy fruit due in no small part due to their appearance. They are also said to aid fertility, enhance the secretion of pheromones and their fiber is important for heart health. Try the Fig Salad from my Age GRACEFULLY Cookbook. Slightly sweet and tart, it can be either a dessert or an appetizer.

Citrus

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Any citrus fruit is rich antioxidants, vitamin C, and folic acid, all of which are essential for health. The passionate color in red-fleshed citrus such as ruby grapefruit and blood oranges indicates the presence of a high level of lycopene, a carotenoid associated with reduced risk of prostate and other cancers. Try my recipes for Spinach and Grapefruit Salad and Citrusy Asparagus and feel the love. If you love arugula like I do, try serving this salad at your next romantic dinner. There are so many other benefits, too:

Arugula and Radicchio Salad

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Arugula and radicchio are bitter lettuces that taste great with a sweet pomegranate molasses dressing. Pomegranate molasses is made by boiling down pomegranate juice into a syrup. A few ounces of goat cheese are excellent on this salad. Arugula has isothiocyanates and indoles, two powerful cancer-protective compounds. Radicchio contains lycopene, a cancer-fighting antioxidant, and lutein for eye and skin health. The anthocyanins in pomegranate inhibit the growth of cancer cells and improve capillary function for beautiful skin.

Chef’s Note: To make a pomegranate molasses with a less concentrated pomegranate flavor, mix ½ cup pomegranate juice with 3 Tbs. molasses.

Ingredients Serves 4

4 cups whole arugula leaves
1 cup shredded radicchio leaves
¼ cup shaved fennel
½ cup chopped walnuts
¼ cup golden raisins

Dressing
¼ cup pomegranate molasses
4 Tbs. olive oil
1 Tbs. crushed garlic
1–2 tsp. sea salt or salt substitute
¼ tsp. black pepper

Procedure

  1. Make the dressing: Whisk the pomegranate molasses, oil, garlic, salt, and pepper until the molasses is well incorporated. Chill in the refrigerator for 1–2 hours.
  2. Assemble the salad: Toss the arugula, radicchio, and fennel. Place in bowls and sprinkle with the walnuts and raisins. Serve with the dressing on the side.

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Star Couples with Major Age Gaps!

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Age is just a number, especially in Hollywood. We’ve rounded up our favorite celebrity couples who have serious age gaps. But, really, when you love someone who cares how old they are!

Nick Offerman and Megan Mullaly

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This amazing couple meet back in 2000 and their 12 year age gap doesn’t mean a thing! Megan Mullaly (who is older) and Nick Offerman have two dogs, a wonderful marriage and they played one of our favorite onscreen duos as well. Megan and Nick played Tammy and Ron on the hit TV show Parks and Recreation. These two lovebirds may win the award for funniest couple ever!

Jay Z and Beyonce

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Talk about a power couple! Jay-Z is 12 years older than his phenomenal wife Beyonce. The two met when Beyonce was only 18 years old. The singing duo are now totally in love, but it was not love at first sight. Beyonce was “not impressed” by Jay-Z’s rapper status when they first met. Lucky for us, Jay-Z didn’t give up and they two now have a beautiful daughter, Blue Ivy, together. As well as the big announcement they are having twins!

Related: Cinderella Vs. Beyonce: What Would They Do If He’s Still Friends with His Ex?

Hugh Jackman and Deborra Lee-Furness

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Austrialian’s hottest leading man (so, so hot) met his 13-years-older wife, Deborra Lee-Furness when he was only 26 years old. Today, the red-hot couple has two kids (who they adopted) and will be married 21 happy years this April! Seriously, these two are so cute. Hugh is totally in love with his wife… he even admitted that he calls her 10 times a day!

Related: Hollywood’s Super Hot Heroes

Anna Paquin and Stephen Moyer

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True Blood costars, Anna Paquin and Stephen Moyer (who are 13 years apart) get to see each other every day. Clearly it isn’t always a bad idea to date a coworker! Before their auditions in 2008 for the hit TV show True Blood, the couple met in the hotel-and it was love at first sight! The vampire couple (well, Stephen plays a vampire on TV) are married with a set of boy-girl twins. This famous couple is one of our absolute favorites.

Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves

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They met at a bar? Yes, it’s true. Oscar-winning actor Matthew McConaughey met his wife at a bar in Hollywood. Matthew was hanging out with his BFF at the time, Lance Armstrong, when he spotted the Brazilian model. Six years later, the couple got hitched in Texas. The duo, who have a 14 year age gap, even had fancy tents for their guests to stay in. In addition to their amazing dynamic as a couple, they are now parents to three totally-adorable kids named Levi, Vida and Livingston.

Related: Dating After 40: The Hollywood Edition

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia De Rossi

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Ellen DeGeneres has always been the type of person to help someone else out. When she first met Portia De Rossi (who is 15 years younger than Ellen) she was going through the roughest time of her life. Ellen stuck by her side and Portia confesses that having Ellen made her more confident than she’s ever been – aw! The blonde duo wed in 2008 and have tons of pets together.

Related: Ellen DeGeneres–Just Keep Swimming

David Schwimmer and Zoe Buckman

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Former Friends actor David Schwimmer met his lady-love Zoe Buckman at a restaurant in London. Zoe was his waitress! Despite their 19-year age gap, the two have an amazing life together. In 2010, they got married and in 2011 they had a baby. What a fairy tale romance… meeting a celebrity at a restaurant!

Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart

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This couple might not have the largest age gap, but they are pretty close. Harrison Ford (who is 74 years old and still handsome) first talked to his wife Calista Flockhart (who is 22 years younger then him) at the 2002 Golden Globes. Calista had just adopted her son, Liam when the famous couple first met — and Harrison jumped right into a father role. What an amazing man!

Related: Top 10 Horror Romance Movies

Patrick Stewart and Sunny Ozell

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This couple takes the age gap cake (if there was such a thing). Legendary Star Trek actor Patrick Stewart married his 38-year-younger love Sunny Ozell in 2013. The lovebirds met when Patrick was in New York for work (Sunny is a New York native). The best part of the couple’s wedding? Patrick’s BFF, Sir Ian McKellen, officiated the ceremony. So sweet!

Why do Humans Flirt?

Shy woman and man sitting on sofa. First date.

We have all seen those Animal Planet or David Attenborough shows that explain why animals of all shapes and sizes flirt, be it a bird of paradise doing a little dance or a rhino showing off how big and buff he is. But, the human – the wisest and most sophisticated (debatable in some cases) of all creatures, is very rarely featured on nature shows in the midst of the mating ritual, also known as flirting. So why do humans flirt? Is there more to it than just trying to attract a mate?

 

With the fear of rejection ever present and the chance that the chat up line you have prepared wont land – there must be a bigger reason we put ourselves through the flirting minefield than just for the chance of someone noticing up, or giving us their phone numbers.

 

Well, philosopher Aristotle believed that all communication was goal-orientated, so the same can be argued about flirting. We humans flirt, because we have certain aims and goals we wish to achieve. So what could these goals be?

 

Relational Motive - When driven by relational motives the aim is to alter the closeness of their relationship, be it to move a friendship into a romantic relationship, or something causal to something more serious.

 

Fun Motive - Sometimes there are no ulterior motives to flirting, we simply do it because it is fun and enjoyable. There is no hope for romance being the flirtation, just the chance to be playful is enough.

 

Exploring Motive - Flirting can serve as a method to explore how someone feels about us; do they flirt back and have little giggles, or do they throw a drink in our face and inform security? Flirting is a way we can find this out, without having to do the humiliating thing and actually asking them.

 

Esteem Motive - Flirting is a good way to build and reinforce self-esteem.Put simply it can make us feel good about ourselves, especially when it is reciprocated – there doesn’t need to be any real romantic intentions, it may be just a way to put a spring in our steps.

 

Instrumental Motive - We may flirt because we have a goal we want to achieve that doesn’t involve romance. Maybe we want someone to do us a favour or grant us preferential treatment or maybe even buy us a drink. The motives behind flirting aren’t always genuine interest, it could be a simple method of manipulation – not really fair, but which of us hasn’t done this at some point.

 

Sexual Motive - It is probably pretty obvious that flirting can sometimes be driven by physical attraction and wanting to have sex with the receiver of your chat up lines. There is a basic human need to reproduce, that’s evolution for you.

 

So, which of these flirting motives do you use most often?